I finally came out to my brother, who's a year younger than me, a few days ago. My mother told me explicitly not to, because she didn't want to deal with his opinion, but I felt like a liar if I didn't tell him what I felt like. It was during a conversation about my school uniform, and why I wore pants during the week instead of skirts, so I said, "Well, I don't consider myself a woman anymore." And he just exploded. He's a lot bigger and more muscled than I am, due to being a football player, so all he did was scream, push me around, and call me a freak. Now, he refuses to act like I'd told him anything, and, when I try to bring it up, he calls me a 'princess' and that I'm selfish to even bother. I feel so sick inside... I didn't mean to make him upset, I hate fighting. I don't know what to do now... I just feel like a disgusting ball of dysphoria.

I read your post and though I could help a little. Sometimes we can't always tell how people will react and we feel like we have to do it anyways. When things go bad I've learned to just inform and step away to let them deal with the news. Give them time and they may or may not come around. As long as you are true to yourself it's all that matters. People will always be entitled to their own opinions. It does suck when others don't agree with our lives, but life goes on and things do get better with time. Just be yourself and try to make yourself happy.

Quote from: 2fish on September 14, 2014, 02:52:34 PM
I read your post and though I could help a little. Sometimes we can't always tell how people will react and we feel like we have to do it anyways. When things go bad I've learned to just inform and step away to let them deal with the news. Give them time and they may or may not come around. As long as you are true to yourself it's all that matters. People will always be entitled to their own opinions. It does suck when others don't agree with our lives, but life goes on and things do get better with time. Just be yourself and try to make yourself happy.

Yeah, that's a valid point in terms of things. I've just... he's not exactly a vicious person besides this point in time. Before this, he's been a little quiet but also has been pretty gentle as well. Now, it's like all of that has gone to the winds and instead he suddenly hates my guts. I guess it was more of a shock than anything else. But also a little sad.

Is he your only sibling? Chances are he has looked up to you as his older "sister" and has never felt threatened as the "only" son in the family. You've shifted the dynamic in the family, you've essentially said you are the eldest son and you are his older brother, possibly he feels his masculinity is threatened and is trying to get all alpha male on you. Time to put him in his place, big bro!