If it is from the young guys from the pub next door with their beer goggles on while I'm working. Fantastic as it is language not often heard in male-to-male conversation. Give me a year or two and I will probably be changing my tune, but for now

Maybe I'll get tired of it when I have been presenting as female longer, but right now I still love it because it is a strong verbal proof that I am passing well!

I find it irksome, especially from clerks/cashiers.

I like it. Feels like an affirmation of my femininity.

With the exception of babe and sweetheart (which somehow sound a bit false and put-on) I've had all the others, along with the ubiquitous Aussie "darl", a number of times in guy and girl mode. Never from a bloke though. Which is fine by me! 

Sometimes I will like it, but it usually comes off as demeaning.

I would rather get called this other than "sir". At least it would be a step in the right direction.

Round these parts it's common to greet people with an "Alright my lovely" or "Alright maid".

Weem live in a local village fer local people see.

Though anything is infinitely better than being greeted with a "What the f--k is that/are you?!"

It depends on the context for me.  If it's a someone just using it conversationally, then I don't mind it.  If its someone trying to hit on me, then probably not (though so far, no one has hit on me).  I'm Southern/Appalachia (VA) born and raised, so Hun, Honey, Darling, Dear, etc... are just part of everyday conversation with women.  Also, a lot more respect is shown there (in the form of sir/ma'am, holding of doors, etc) than down here in S. Florida where I am now.

"Honey", "Babe" and "Sweetheart" I haven't heard yet.  But I have heard "Dear" and "Darling", and it depends on how it's said and who's saying it.

Like the supermarket manager: I was standing in front of the fruit and veg display one morning and he happened to pass by and said, "XXX, darling, how are you?"  Cracked me up.  He knows me well, good guy.  He's flirted with me once or twice in a joking and good way.

Once in a café a guy was leaving with his takeaway order, both hands full, couldn't open the door himself.  So I opened it for him and he said, "Thank you, dear."  A very friendly and sincere way of saying thanks.  I quite liked it.

Here in Ireland what you'll hear quite often is "Good girl!", which usually will mean "Thanks!" or "Well done!"  I've known women who don't like that.  The "girl" part might sound a bit patronizing.  But I don't mind it myself, given that I've always heard it in a friendly manner.

I really enjoy being called these makes me feel warm inside lol

The only one I hate is babe

I kind of like it. I don't here it much here in NJ. When traveling in TN or even parts of FL, I hear it a lot more. This past weekend I got called gorgeous twice by an older guy at a gourmet market in Mahwah, NJ. He was very friendly and polite and had a southern accent and I just assumed it was because of his background. The second time he did it, I though maybe he was hitting on me in front of my wife. Then I noticed he also did it to a few other female customers and just realized he was just being friendly.

I don't care for babe though, only my wife can call me that.

I get that from some cis woman of various ages and think it's kind of sweet. If a man said that to me I would take it as more of a demeaning insult, but that's because I'm not into men and they get that. I call a lot of my trans women friends here honey, sweetie and the like because I am genuinely fond of them and feel some closeness and affinity for them. Then there's Jaime Renee, she really get's the sweetie treatment from me because I think she's a really nice gal and a good long distance friend who I respect and care a lot for.  Now you know why she gets so irritated and snarky at times. 

For me I get "ma'am or sweetie" from strangers.  From boyfriend I get "Hun, sweetie, babe" for the most part.  But I find the names sweet, not demeaning at all.  Now if it went further with strangers I might, such as "baby, babe, sexy, candy pants" etc.  That's when I know they are just seeing me for a piece of ass.    Boys... (rolls eyes)

Quote from: CrissyMarie on September 18, 2014, 07:46:40 PM
For me I get "ma'am or sweetie" from strangers.  From boyfriend I get "Hun, sweetie, babe" for the most part.  But I find the names sweet, not demeaning at all.  Now if it went further with strangers I might, such as "baby, babe, sexy, candy pants" etc.  That's when I know they are just seeing me for a piece of ass.  Boys... (rolls eyes)

Yeah I sure get that Crissy, kind of creepy objectifying treatment for a female to have to endure.

   I had this perfect and lost it grrrr.


Personally I love it. I think alot of people have warm heartedness. It's who they are. In today's world everyone is concerned about everybody else hurting them,  and I think that it's nice that some people can truly be who they are. I believe that as Iong as I keep hearing those endearing terms then I will know that humanity is still safe.

  Old men lol..... That is completely a another subject... lol  I don't get it..... it's like after a certain age they just say screw it all. Yyyyyeahhhhh  it can be icky. Or how they can willingly sit at a restaurant and perversely oogle you to the point of uncomfortableness. Its usualy not until you get up and leave or say would you like a picture to take home .... that that you can scrape off the ickyness of it.

  Fyi CrissyMarie.... I love your Boy's eye roll comment lol.... so cute.

I don't mind it at all. I like it a lot.
I don't even mind being seen as a piece of ass, boys are going to like girls and you have to use what you got... they carry the heavy things for me so... lol (hangs head in shame).

So understanding the cutesy names and such, I got to thinking about the other things guys do.  Like my boyfriend always opening the door for me to places, which is very sweet but I feel helpless, so now when he does it I'll grab the next door to hold open for him.  But he just stands there staring at me like wtf.  O.ò so I say well just returning the favor.  He is like me, old school romantic, which I love but I guess it's just really an eye opener to have all these sweet things happening to me for no reason.  I get the chivalrous things and the cute pet names, "Hun, sweetie, babe, love".  I love it, but it's strange because I've wanted all these things and now that I get it, I remember back when I did all these things for past girlfriends and they were never appreciative of it.  Even something like when I'm pulled in for snuggles, or being spooned on a couch or bed.  It's everything I'm use to but different because it's happening to me now instead of me doing all of it for a girl.  It just really makes me pause think and pause in the middle of it to be thankful of all the sweet and generous things that guys go through to please us.

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I don't mind it. I get weirded out when people who dont know me use my name, and I never liked the whole sir/ma'am/mister/madam thing they feel archaic. So cute titles like sweetie is about the only way someone who doesn't know me can address me without annoying me. English doesn't really require a form of address though, "thank you" works just as well as "thank you, ma'am" and doesn't make me feel so old.