It doesn't bother me, but it did kinda surprised me at first and took some getting use to

I got called Thanks "Hon" today from a convenience store woman clerk, she mean it in a nice way. I kinda laughed

If I get a patronizing vibe from it I pretty much hate, hate, hate it, otherwise it can be ok, even nice in certain contexts.

I don't really mind.. unless the person using the words is a condescending man, then it's something that really grates on me! haha!

makes my skin crawl even when i get it from women. doesn't matter if it's meant as a compliment, or is appropriate, or whatever.
if cootie repellent existed, i'd spray it over whole topics.

might be exposure to toxic levels of being treated as a girl/woman, and lots of condescending attitude as well.
the worst thing that happened recently was when i was buying some planks from a building project that i had to get tied onto the roof of (my mom's) car. the boys who worked at the construction company dared complain about how i didn't bring ratchet straps for securing stuff, when they themselves haven't even learned to tie a proper knot! hemp rope is all i've ever needed to secure some planks. skill inherited from mom and grandma. how a norwegian man, supposedly viking and sailor, can bear not knowing how to tie even the simplest knot, is beyond me.

but that was way beside the point wasn't it? (and my male ideal might be a little outside most norms...)
all i mean to say is that it offends me greatly when people who don't even know that they have poorer skills than me act condescending to me just because of my female build. cutesy pet names from a man... i would never accept it.

but it's not bad when people open the door for me. i'd do the same for anyone, if i reached the door first.

I've liked it when I've been addressed like this ... I've not experienced it done in a condescending fashion (Which I imagine would be most irritating) ...

Sam x

I would find it very uncomfortable and unwelcome if from a male. However, I could accept it from a woman and might even find it as a compliment.

This thread makes me laugh a bit because it seems like I'm constantly called these names at work.  I live in New York, so it's definetly not just a southern thing.  It seems like for every 3 out of 4 women I speak with call me one of those type of names (with the exception of dear, and the inclusion of sweetie).  I don't think it's a gender thing, but I rarely got called those names before transitioning.  And even though present at work as male at this time, I am getting it a lot, so I don't know if it means something.  Usually, it's said by another woman who is older, though girls my own age use it at times too.  It doesn't bother me for the most part.   As for guys, I never get called those names by them.  There are a few guys that have called me babe, but it's not common and it annoys me when I hear that term.  It's just so condescending sounding regardless of what gender is calling you it.  That's something that should only be called by someone that is very close with you in some capacity.  Anyway, most guys call me buddy if anything which is the "male" version of the above terms. 

I almost don't notice it anymore. However, I've recently been addressing everyone from friends to co-workers as "honey" to gauge their reaction. It doesn't seem to shake them. Keep in mind I'm not yet full time and look borderline andro, if not full on gay, and that is by design.

I like how some of the women here from UK address me as "Love" in PM's it has a warm ring to it and comes off as a feminine expression between women, the intent is well received at my end.

Quote from: Alice Rogers on September 25, 2014, 12:11:44 PM
For me (as a brit)  if it comes from a stranger 'Love' is usually accompanied by a patronising tone and comes off as misogynistic, from a friend or partner its nice

Oh well Alice, I'm too thick skinned to care and think it sounds better than some of the things I've been called.

For me,  also from the UK,  it's only ever been used as a feminine pleasantry and I like it :-)

Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on September 26, 2014, 02:40:40 AM
For me,  also from the UK,  it's only ever been used as a feminine pleasantry and I like it :-)

Thanks love, it may have been you who said that to me along with my friend Aeris Houlihan and I always loved it!

I'm afraid I am very guilty of calling people here "hon", or "sweetie". However it is usually meant as a friendly term, to make people feel at their ease.

As for myself, I don't really care. I've been called a lot worse, lol.

I particularly like it from policemen stopping me for speeding as it means I don't get a ticket

I love to be called them all especially by my boyfriend. Close GG friends can call me honey or sweetie or babe. I don't like it when they say that over the phone from someone I don't know. If out as a man they realize that I am feminine.

As long as they are being sincere, I get a warm loving feeling in my chest when people call me those names haha 

Well, dear — I'd have no problem with it from anyone (even if they use it jokingly — jokingly as in if a male coworker said "Yes, dear" after I asked them to do something at work, which a few might do. They're funny like that ).

As for darling, only from friends (and only if it's like part of their regular vocabulary).

Honey, babe and sweetheart? No, just no. Unless it's my SO (don't have one currently ), who can use babe, I guess.

Honey and sweetheart just seem a bit belittling to me (regardless of whether a man or woman uses it, especially if they say it with "that tone"). Of course, I think it all depends on who's using it and how they're using it.

It happens to me and I haven't even started transitioning yet. It's like a form of patronizing but I usually let if fly because it doesn't happen every week.

Even though it's very common down here in the deep south where I live, I have to almost force myself to squeeze out  a Thank You Dear, especially to strangers. I know most would enjoy hearing it, and I do like hearing it from others myself, but I was raised in a very traditional Mormon community in Utah, and talking that way was unheard of, and frowned on. I guess those childhood teachings ingrain themselves in us more than we like to admit.?