Do I wish I could get a period? Hell no! Lol

However, one of the saddest parts is knowing I can't conceive and get pregnant. I feel like most of my personal concerns about transitioning would go away if I knew one day I could conceive.

Call me crazy, but I've pretty much always wished I could have periods, and get pregnant.  That is actually one of my dysphoria triggers.  I have 3 beautiful girls already (1 step, 2 biological), but I really want to carry one myself, or at least know I have that potential.

To be honest, I have no desire to have periods.  When I was a little kid, my older sister taught me that I was going to get my period and messed with my head.  It didn't sound like fun then, and I was very happy to learn that she had been lying to me out of jealousy that I wouldnt have to go through that.

Still, I do get really upset to know that I'll never have my own biological kids.  It's actually bothering me a lot more lately than it ever did.  Maybe cause I'm getting older, but it sucks to know that I'll never get to be a mom.  In that sense, having a period would be worth it.

Quote from: Jill F on September 22, 2014, 03:41:52 PM
Almost every ciswoman I know has at one point told me that I'm lucky that I get all of the good and none of the bad that goes with being a woman.

My cis-girl roommate says the same thing to me.. you are lucky you don't get periods.. I have explained my point of view to her and she understands without periods no kids.

She told me she gets quite bad cramps are the worst.. the bleeding she can handle

I can understand the mental anguish from not getting periods but I've realized it's probably more of a hassle than it's worth anyway. No use in fretting over things I can't have. So instead I prefer to think of *not having periods* as a gift. We never have to deal with cramps and bleeding and all that stuff that can be less than fun. I just prefer to take the good out of a situation I can't control. Roll with it, as I like to say.

The having kids thing in itself, I was never really a kid person anyway. It doesn't really bother me personally but I do feel for you ladies that want them.

The fact that I can't, and that I will never be able to bear children makes me sadder than just about anything else. I know its painful and unpleasant, but at the same time I feel incomplete and inadequate that I don't have either Ovaries or a Uterus. I feel like a such a freak when my best-friend talks about her friends baby, or how she wants to have children with her boyfriend. The knowledge that that narrative of life will never apply to me just makes me sad, you know?

Quote from: Ravensong on September 23, 2014, 05:24:58 PM
Call me crazy, but I've pretty much always wished I could have periods, and get pregnant.  That is actually one of my dysphoria triggers.  I have 3 beautiful girls already (1 step, 2 biological), but I really want to carry one myself, or at least know I have that potential.

I've always wanted to carry one myself, feel him/her kick, give birth and nurse.

But you know what? I am happy I have my kids, no matter how they came into this world. As shallow as it sounds I could never do adoption. Many, if not most adoptees I know go on looking for their birth parents, which would make me feel like less of a parent. I know adopted kids need love though, but it's not the same to me.

I guess this is what we all have in common. It's our trans feminine primary experience, and how we can relate to with each other with the pain of not being fertile as a female. So we can all hug each other, ehehe but yea to me it's painful. It's no use to dwell on what we cannot change. I can just add a little bit of humor and say I hope to be reincarned a cis woman in my next life, and it be a good one while enjoying this as well xD