I want breasts and a vagina so freaking it kills, sometimes. I could never pass. Im 35 now. For a long time, I have been putting off transition by telling myself I can be perfectly happy living as a guy and I would NOT look like a passable girl. or that im not transgender. Right now, I don't date. I don't have sex. Have only ever had sex a few times and all i could think was I should be getting penetrated and not her. So what exactly is wrong with taking hormones and getting srs while still living outwardly as guy. It's a compromise. I mean, all my sisters have like AA breasts, I look very manly. I had lived a guys life the past few years and had srs a long time ago, I would be having regular sex. I would enjoy the feeling of my teeny boobs. I would put on a show for the rest of the world, but i would ok with my own body. I might miss a few things about having a penis, but I'm things relating to having a vagina. Where is the downside? Can I go on just walking around and waiting for life to end? If the world were more accepting of "guys" with boobs and a penis i could be happy.

I dont think there is a surgeon in the world who will perform an SRS without you having at least a year's experience as a woman (because you will need two therapist letters and thats about the minimum criteria before they will write a letter).

You should evaluate the transition priorities. The whole purpose of creating primary and secondary sexual characteristics is so people can live in their desired gender. (and not live in their birth gender).

I think you would probably just end up transitioning anyway after a while on HRT.. it really changes how you see things, the desire live a genuine existence becomes rather strong (at least in my experience) - I went full time at two months of HRT, I had planned on waiting at least a year...lol. You might be surprised what HRT can do for you physically too, I've been really surprised.. I never thought I'd have a hope of passing! And I don't know if I do yet (probably not) but at three months HRT I look do A LOT different, and am quite happy with how is going I just posted a thread up showing the changes over the 3 months. Also I'm 31 in three weeks, so I don't think you're too old either Goodluck and be brave, you can do it

Claire

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Welcome to Susan's Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

There may or may not be anything wrong with what you're talking about. The question is whether doing what you're proposing will help. There are plenty of people here who are on HRT but do not fully transition for any number of reasons. There are undoubtedly others who have had SRS, usually after living as female for a requisite period of time who have since detransitioned. I'd recommend talking things over with a gender therapist before you go much further.

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