Quote from: BreezyB on October 08, 2014, 08:53:14 AM
Lol, yep that's the way I find it works best. You were clearly a keeper though Kelly, she made you notice her 

I thought I was being played.. So I threw out a very corny line and she went for it.. 

Damn I miss her.   

Quote from: kelly_aus on October 09, 2014, 02:23:54 AM
I thought I was being played.. So I threw out a very corny line and she went for it.. 

Damn I miss her.   

I bet you do Kelly 

Sooo, what was the line? It clearly works 

Quote from: BreezyB on October 09, 2014, 03:29:05 AM
I bet you do Kelly 

Sooo, what was the line? It clearly works 

The line? 'Next time I see you I'm going to push you against the nearest wall and kiss you.'

Which is exactly what she did to me a couple of hours later.

Quote from: kelly_aus on October 09, 2014, 03:30:45 AM
The line? 'Next time I see you I'm going to push you against the nearest wall and kiss you.'

Which is exactly what she did to me a couple of hours later.

Nice, I'll try that one and let you know how it goes 

It all depends really. For example, what are you looking for in the relationship/body/mind/sex life? For me, I don't know except in terms of sex life I know what I like and what I don't so, this makes it VERY tricky for me to be with a woman given what I'm into and needing yet I know I like women.

It's not that I think there is just one true love out there in the world for someone. I think there are like 5,000 true loves out there for everyone. The difficult part is finding one of those 5,000 in this huge world. There are thousands of people in this world that you can find true happiness with. Some day if your lucky you will turn the corner at the grocery store and one will be standing in front of you

@MrKarl: I completely agree, which is why I think socialising online (either via forums like this one, in online games, and/or on dedicated dating sites) is so valuable because you can meet tonnes of people from all around the world in a very short space of time, increasing your chances of meeting "one of the ones" Flip a coin once, and you have a 50/50 chance that it will land on the side you picked.  Flip it 100 times and you're practically guaranteed it'll land on the side you picked at least once.  The same philosophy can be extend to things like this too, although obviously the numbers are much bigger lol.  You can roll the dice as many times as you like, you only need to get lucky once

I guess that's not a very romantic way of looking at it (I mean, it's no "star-crossed lovers" or anything lol ) but it is a rather reassuring one ♥︎

I agree Kira, those areas of social media has been great in meeting people, but it just seems that the ones i feel are my soul mates, always seem to live to far away and neither willing to relocate - i know a few that do... im just dug in too far too deep, plus i love oklahoma i wont leave her, i tried once, what a disaster, so i moved back vowing never to leave again...

Haha yeh, there is that aspect to it.  Personally I have a hard time seeing myself moving away from the country I was born in too (UK if you're curious ).  But hay, at least you would've made the first step in finding someone special - actually finding them lol!  The rest is just working out how to actually be together.  And if you can't figure it out between you then pretty much by definition - they weren't "one of the ones", even if you felt strongly for each other.  There's an element of "right place, right time" to it in my opinion ♥︎

Quote from: KiraD on October 10, 2014, 11:22:46 AM
There's an element of "right place, right time" to it in my opinion ♥︎

Sooo right! If my fella and I had met at a different time it simply would not have worked, he was coming out of therapy and feeling better about his needs and I was coming out of my failed marriage. Plus he was coming to the UK for a year to teach and it was only because of the timing that I could invite him to come stay as a friend, then it blossomed from there.

Met him in second life.

Alice
xx

the hard part is when i cant seem to find a lover, how it wears me down and depresses me to a state of self destruction - ive been to long with no one to hold and love, to the point that if i met my soul mate, i would probably fall apart...

all i know is when i try, i end up trying to hard and actually end up pushing them away, as ive done to many times before...

its like i cant win when it comes to love

Quote from: Alaena_okc on October 14, 2014, 09:12:21 AM
the hard part is when i cant seem to find a lover, how it wears me down and depresses me to a state of self destruction - ive been to long with no one to hold and love, to the point that if i met my soul mate, i would probably fall apart...

its like i cant win when it comes to love

^^___^^I know all too well how you feel. I'm even to the point where I doubt if true love even exists anymore. If someone were to express true love to me I'd prolly have a heart attack. 

Ally

Well i see we are mostly all in the same boat - to that I wish for us all to find the soul mate that will make our lives fulfilled and to fill that empty void that keeps digging at us

"OUR DAY WILL COME" 

HUGGS and XOXO's to us ALL!!!

I like to think I am pretty amazing

I have not as yet, found anyone to date me yet, much less true love. I did get separated about a year ago, but I have totally moved on....So far I have been up front about being trans, and it hasn't really netted me any real attention. I am not finding Lesbians who hate me, merely ones who don't want to talk to me. I don't really care if a woman is trans or cis, but none of the transwomen locally have been interested either (not that I know but a few).

I am sure I will find the right woman for me eventually.

Love is over rated. If there is one thing I have learned, its that I am better off alone. No one can break your heart that way. And true love, does not exist. it's a myth. Love always comes with strings attached.

Quote from: Rainbow Brite on October 15, 2014, 04:12:01 PM
Love is over rated. If there is one thing I have learned, its that I am better off alone. No one can break your heart that way. And true love, does not exist. it's a myth. Love always comes with strings attached.

After two marriages and lots of observation, I tend to agree with that.

I gave up on love...just don't really care anymore. I got tired of all the BS that come with dating. Now I am pretty bitter about it. If I need sex I have vibrators that do wonders.

Quote from: Rainbow Brite on October 15, 2014, 04:12:01 PM
Love is over rated. If there is one thing I have learned, its that I am better off alone. No one can break your heart that way. And true love, does not exist. it's a myth. Love always comes with strings attached.

^^___^^ I couldn't agree more with the exception of being better off alone. I always do better with someone to share my life with. However as I've stated earlier, I don't believe true love exists anymore, and all this talk about there being someone out there for everyone -pure hogwash. Maybe in the past these things existed but by my experience not anymore. All people are looking for now a days is someone they can take advantage of.

Ally

Quote from: Allyda on October 17, 2014, 08:51:46 AM
^^___^^ I couldn't agree more with the exception of being better off alone. I always do better with someone to share my life with. However as I've stated earlier, I don't believe true love exists anymore, and all this talk about there being someone out there for everyone -pure hogwash. Maybe in the past these things existed but by my experience not anymore. All people are looking for now a days is someone they can take advantage of.

Ally

I look at love for exactly what it is, elevated levels of oxytocin over time in forming close, romantic social bonds that will never last. The notion of love is a facade, a joke, and a big fat lie. In the last five years I've went on one date because I was "considering dating again" and it's always the same old cliche. I think I can say that I hate the concept of love...absolutely hate it. As long as I can find someone to rub y legs, knees and toes I am good. That, fortunately, is not hard to do.

Wow! I thought I was the only one who was bitter and jaded.i wasnt always that way and I'm sure you folks weren't either.