Hi, I'm Timmy. I'm 23, and I'm lost in my thoughts, trying to figure out who I am. For starters, I'm a guy, but I often fantasize about being a girl. I have been dressing up in secret for a long time, but my family would probably react very negatively if they found out, so I'm afraid to tell them. For as long as I can remember, I have fantasized about switching bodies, and being in a girls body, and I often feel unsatisfied with how I look, and wish to be more feminine. A lot of the time I change the way I act so people don't think I'm weird by being to feminine, but I'm happier when I just be girly. I have done a lot of research on SRS, and have thought about saving up to have it done, but I'm also really confused on my sexuality. I am far more attracted to girls, and think that maybe I should stay a guy. I find some men attractive, but on the whole girls are who I go for. Because of this, I am really confused on who I'm supposed to be. The only person in my family I have told is my sis, and she didn't know what to say. Please help! 

Hey Timmy

Welcome to Susan's Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

Don't mix your sexuality up with your gender, they are two different things. There are plenty of trans women who are attracted to women. Transition doesn't change that.

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Grace

First, more than likely this feeling will never go away. Most of us started with a good therapist with experience in gender issue's. Grace is right, don't get gender identity confused with gender preference. You can still be female and it is OK to be attracted to one as well. The sky is the limit of transition so don't box yourself in. 

Timmy

Welcome to Susans.

There is plenty of information on current and older threads as well as many friendly folk who are here to listen, support and share their perspective and experience.

Your story is not unusual.  You may well be Trans but only you can determine your identity and this is best done as Jessica says, by working with a good gender therapist.  You will be able to find a way through your current confusion.   While it feels a little overwhelming at first the therapeutic process will be invaluable in better understanding, accepting and expressing yourself.   This is a journey and you are in control of the pace and the direction.

Safe travels

Aisla

Timmah!

Sorry, hi Timmy! Nice to meet you! I'm up around Boston. I'm going to agree with Grace,, who you like has nothing to do with who you are. There's a lot of nice people here, get out there and make friends! See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn