Quote from: Satinjoy on October 19, 2014, 08:06:04 AM
We are running into a thing here where a few of us seem.to be trying to carry the forum, and some are dominating it and some threads, like the creatures thread that is so important and has now drifted away from its purpose, to reveal our hearts and genders and feelings... I am unhappy about that.

How do we get more non binary involvement?  There are many reaching out to us...

What is your contribution to the Nonbinary forum?

Are you able to speak out more?  Are you afraid to share?  We all have much to offer, do not fear to speak out..

Love to all here

Blessings

Satinjoy

SJ

Your questions are important.  But communities and forums are organic.  I think that conversations can be seeded and ideas/questions introduced but it needs to be in response to perceived or expressed needs or interests. 

A good start is encouraging visitors to stay awhile and read the posts.  This is happening. It is happening a lot.

Listening, really listening and trying to support folk pays forward.  Folk will read these threads, any posts made today are there for posterity.  The posts and threads here are thoughtful, they are generally supportive.

Topics.  Perhaps we could do more in seeding topics or discussions in areas that we may have personally resolved.  While it may not be directly beneficial to us, sharing perspective and experience can be enormously helpful or comforting to those who are earlier in their journeys.

Tone.  Perhaps we need to gently remind posters of the intent of a thread when it's meaning is at risk.  The unicorn forest is a great example.  The emphasis needs to be on 'gently', as inclusion is more important than excluding others.

Focus.  The broader forum deals with issues common to all trans.  Perhaps we should look at the questions being asked there and reframe those to fit with a non binary context?

Activity.  Perhaps each one of us should commit to open a new thread every 2 weeks.  With at least a dozen regular contributors as well as visitors this should generate more than enough activity to be a vibrant, dynamic and stimulating community.  Metrics can be good.

Health Check.  We are each invested in helping others and in progressing our own journeys.  Perhaps we should discuss opportunities or concerns under this topic.  If we regard any idea as valuable we may be surprised and delighted with what is suggested.

Better stop now, I talk too much.

Safe travels

Aisla

I question whether my emotional nature gets in the way... I feel off right now again, was way off yesterday.  My passion can interfere.

It's all fluid, no rules really, and I questioned myself through the day.  But I want to hear so many voices, and all the sages, everyone posting without worrying about how theyysound or if they are.trans enough, nb enough, strong enough, whatever enough.

Woof I am tired again, I can drive myself nuts quick.

So I don't want to be so serious here, I have poured my soul into this place, I care that deeply about it, about all of you.

Nowhere have I fit in like here, that was a long time to hurt from untreated trans.

I will keep throwing topics up and try to lighten up a little.

Blessings

Satinjoy

You're mercurial, it's part of your nature. We know and understand that 

SJ

Take care.  You have exhausted yourself before.  We all have our limits

Aisla

I was reading this today, and just listening.

We all want to be supportive and be all of the positive things everyone mentioned above to each other, and we usually are.
I agree with a few of the earlier posters about sometimes our posts being ignored(often accidentally), or a post being disregarded and passed over by others concentrating on a more personal issue or conversation. It's okay though, most of us know each other well enough to sense whats going on, and give space where space is needed.. The bad part of that is that new members don't know us that well yet, or understand.
But in any group of different personalities, some are going to be stronger voiced and more spirited than some others, and most of us don't really care, and gladly accept that, if our comments and posts are treated with that same understanding.

Im sorry if my last post in the unicorn forest was negative, but I'm just not into all the dark stuff like some of you are. It's cool if others are enjoying it though, I guess thats whats important. 

Aisla also had excellent ideas, and imagining them being implemented gave me a very good feeling that there is much we all can do and contribute positively to make our forest land the best it can be, and inviting to everyone to join us.

Bless us all. 

just be yourself, mark. if you don't like dark, bring in some of your light.
i like that.

i'm not very good at making threads of my own. and if i ever do, it's usually something dark.
want one about nightmares? ...no, you say? okay, better to wait for a while with that one.

but i do enjoy posting in other people's topics.
sometimes we end up going off on a tangent, or discussing why a question is asked rather than the question itself.
or other interesting things.
been like that here for a while. derailing threads because of playfulness and curiosity.
like children chasing after butterflies when they were really planning to pick some flowers to bring back home.

many of the best discussions have come out of off topic discussions around things related to, but not directly concerning, the question asked.
i don't think i would want it any other way here, as long as the tangents aren't evil and posters aren't attacking each other.
we usually get back on topic as soon as someone posts on topic again.

I wonder if Taka has any idea how many people they have helped and how much of a difference they make


The tangents are fascinating, it is like, we plant a tree, the trunk forms, it branches out, all are helped if the tree is healthy.

One of the reasons I post so much is that it is how I hold onto my own sanity.

Like this morning.

One a person asked "Why me".  the answer was "Why not."

Oh great.

I need the whole deal.... Personally I need to see it all, the good the bad and the beautiful, the whole spectrum.

So when its rough, I see its rough for others, when good, its very good, when someone is in trouble and I have life experience that helps, I want to reach out, if I can pry the time loose from my manically busy life.

I just want more people to be freed up to share theirs too, not to hold back any more, but to let go.

By the way pretty pikachu, I have no problems either with your posts, because you come from a place that appears real, and we do to, and neither side tries to change the other.  That was the dream of many once.  I for one am glad you are here, and unfortunately I trigger easily, we all know it,  you have added to this place and not in any way hurt it.

So many lives reaching out, so many to touch here.... every one of us have so much to offer, survivors of trans, more than that, champions of it.

Nails out...hair down

Satinjoy

Muaaaaaaaah.. 
Caution: Reflected sunlight from magical snail shells make cause temporary blindness..! 

Its all good Taka.! I agree with lots you said..

Maybe sometimes we get a little intimidating to new people though.?
Wish we could pass out the knights armor and a shiny new sword to new members, give them a fighting chance.!! Lol.

Ha, I'm in a weird mood today.... :0

So am I, wait until you see what I do to that snail tomorrow morning LOL 

that's a great idea, mark!
armor and swords to the knights, capes and wands to the mages, camouflage and a good bow to the archers. summoners probably already know how to summon.
it's always more fun in a party.

i should start making myself a magical spear. for some reason i always liked spears more...

wait. that wasn't the point of this, was it?
but yeah, we may appear frightening, but seriously.
this is a place where we can't afford to believe in anything other than that we all can become whatever we want.

and so can you lurkers out there!

i once saw someone comment on a yt video, that you can't become whatever you want because life isn't an anime.
they're right about life not being an anime.
but that's exactly what makes it worthwhile.
there is no author to control your life or possibilities.

you can be anything you want!
and if you're looking for a safe place to stay while figuring out how, this is it.

(looks like i've caught that weird mood too)

Quote from: Satinjoy on October 20, 2014, 07:41:08 AM
So am I, wait until you see what I do to that snail tomorrow morning LOL

  I'll be waiting.! Sharpening my sword... and wit...! Hahaha..

Sounds great Taka..! 

also regarding the number of people i've helped.
i don't know that number, neither am i interested in knowing.

numbers do not matter.
every life is equally valuable, and if i start comparing, there will always be more that i haven't been able to help.

so instead, i count the one i'm facing right now.
if i can help you, even the tiniest bit, then that is all that matters.

You have.  You are. 

I am helped and you strengthen me.

By just being you taka.

Satinjoy

My goodness posting in the forest thread helps me fight depression, heavens...

Quote from: Satinjoy on October 20, 2014, 12:11:58 PM
My goodness posting in the forest thread helps me fight depression, heavens...

Glad it helps you hon! I'm going to drop out of "What animal are you in the Unicorn Forest" it's cute but not my kind of thing really. Thought I'd say in case someone takes note of my unresponsiveness there, no I'm not dead yet and all is well.

Quote from: Shantel on October 20, 2014, 12:17:52 PM
Glad it helps you hon! I'm going to drop out of "What animal are you in the Unicorn Forest" it's cute but not my kind of thing really. Thought I'd say in case someone takes note of my unresponsiveness there, no I'm not dead yet and all is well.

My reaction is similar. I read most of the posts there, but I have trouble getting into the whimsy. I love that the thread is there, but not really my thing.

not really my thing either, not violent enough for the playful part of me, tje darker parts prefer to play backstabbing games with kind of immortal family.
but the sootball likes it a lot. it only misses a bar to mess up and floor to sweep until they're blackened by its hard work...
funny thing was born in a bar thread somewhere far away from here.

Sometimes it can be quite twee, I come and go as I please though so it's all good.

As I've said before, I'm at a good place right now, and am around only to give what little support I can.  Sometimes I feel as though I've run out of things to say, as I'm often repeating the same things over again. 

Real life stuff interferes with my time to introspect here - I'd like to think I left enough of a toots trail for people to see how I've travelled.   I have a few large time consuming things going on right now (not trans related, personal life is fine), that I need to be selfish and think of myself for a while.

I'll do short duck ins when I can, and I'm always more than happy to respond to pms.