So, I have a whole thread going about binding and packing and who does what and how. I put it on the Transgender Talk Forum cause I didn't know better.

Anyway, I have a lot of trouble with mine in boxer briefs. It's fine in my briefs, except nothing is holding it when you take them down to pee. I have gotten really good at managing holding onto it and getting my briefs up and down. When I want to wear boxer briefs, I do wear a jock strap and put the pack in the pouch the cup would go into. The only problem is that it holds the penis straight up, where I like to wear it to the left. So I'm thinking of modifying the pouch  to make it sit more comfortably. I think some kinds offer a harness though.

Just chiming in, i can totally relate to this post, even 2 months on T, the first month was spent completely freaking out about it even though i wanted it! I found it really difficult changing my name and adjusting to being in a male role simply because i wasnt used to it, i wanted to be called a boy from day 1 but because that didnt happen, i felt weird at the idea of people having to make an effort to call me he and it made me so uncomfortable. Even now i struggle to say "i'm a boy" cos theres that voice in my head thats like "ha ha but no youre not". But for me it came down to taking each step at a time, i knew after taking all the steps til there was nothing left to do but go on T, i've been taking each day as it comes and also remembering that it doesnt have to be a forever deal, you can feel you way through anyway, i'm glad i'm not the only one who had these thoughts!

Quote from: Bearr on October 21, 2014, 11:33:40 PM

Silver --- It sounds like the same predicament I am in. Have you transitioned completely yet? I really hope I don't feel stuck in the position.

I don't think you will end up stuck Bearr. Things may be slow going for awhile but the upside is that you can always change things when you are ready. I haven't transitioned completely yet and that's part of my problem. I've been how I am my whole life and am accepted as male almost always unless I've told someone that I'm not. I've been struggling with figuring out how far I need to transition to be happy especially since I'm accepted as male and haven't done any T. I'm having to ask myself whether T is right for me. From what I can read I think you are well on your way to figuring things out

It took me 11 months to decide what to do. I don't regret that time spent at all. I remember one session with my therapist where I told him that I was 98% sure I wanted to go on T, and he said, "tell me about that 2%".

--Jay

LittleBearBoy- I've actually seen videos where they sow the pocket of the brief for a better hold on the packer. That's always an option too.
I'll probably have some trial and error with figuring what works best and feels the best.

j612- I for sure understand where you are coming from. It sounds like you are going the direction you want! I'm still trying to get over the 'biological' issue in my head. Good luck on your journey

Silver- That's great that everyone has accepted it without T- shoot, you may decide you don't need it

aleon515- Haha I laughed at the "tell me about the 2%"... sounds like a great therapist.

Again-  I appreciate all the advice. I will probably be posting later down the road with my progress and see what happens.

Quote from: aleon515 on October 23, 2014, 10:28:10 PM
It took me 11 months to decide what to do. I don't regret that time spent at all. I remember one session with my therapist where I told him that I was 98% sure I wanted to go on T, and he said, "tell me about that 2%".

--Jay

On Wednesday, mine asked me if I could see any downsides to T. Like, are there any changes I wouldn't want. After thinking it over, I said "no". I would love some facial hair, a lower voice, lack of menstruation, body hair... After I left, I remembered T makes you sweat more and it will smell worse. Not a horrible price to pay, and certainly not something thats going to drive me away from who I think I am.

I think I'm going to pursue it, you guys. I really think I am.

-Bear

Quote from: Bearr on October 24, 2014, 09:54:45 PM

aleon515- Haha I laughed at the "tell me about the 2%"... sounds like a great therapist.

Again-  I appreciate all the advice. I will probably be posting later down the road with my progress and see what happens.

I did laugh when he said that. He's a trans guy so I'm pretty sure he understood all that. And he is an excellent therapist and all around good guy. And yes, it was VERY helpful to think about what my hesitations were.

--Jay