Hello Katie!
I agree with the above.
As for your questioning... what worked for me was this: I went away for a trip in another place, walked the beach shore, and listened to my feelings without any distractions. Being in another place -alone- is a good way to connect to yourself. Try to go within, and do the soul searching. Eventually it will click. And whatever the answer may be, if it feels right on the heart/soul level, then that might be true. At first I identified as androgynous, a year later of soul searching I finally admitted I was a woman sitting on the androgynous fence, too scared to come off it. To be honest to yourself is very difficult, but ultimately life changing, whatever the outcome.
