I'm single & not dating any men at present. I'm a hetrosexual woman inside & only attracted to men. I've been in several relationships in the past however being pre op always made things so uncomfortable. I've always needed & wanted to complete my GRS, heal up then finally enjoy dating men again to maybe find a nice man. I love being with a strong man.

I had to update my vote to dating a cis male. We're back together again because he realized he liked me and not just my gender. He's still struggling a little with it, so I'm going easy on him and letting him take his time.

Sorry I won't reply to polls that parse out cis or trans.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 11, 2014, 09:25:47 AM
I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

Does it really matte Pikachu. Lesbian, straight, cis ,trans or gay, sometime love knocks us "stupid" or just blind sides us. there is one thing that I have earned all my years on this planet and that is to keep the heart, No. 1 open and the mind, No.2 open. And that love will always find a way. And No.3 if one doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be and true love is always around the corner. Yeah I know I am a sappy hopeless romantic.

I'm fresh off a divorce from a 27 year marriage and am squarely in the middle of a transition/figuring out who I am.  Right now I am not ready to date anyone, and I am not quite sure who I would be interested in dating anyway.

If pressed I would classify myself as interested in women, but a cute FTM would be an interesting possibility. In fact, I am very good friends with a FTM that is fresh out of a relationship but he hasn't made any moves whatsoever - I think I have been slotted into the friend category with him - which is ok, we still have fun hanging out.

I'm resigned to the fact that as a pre-op trans woman I have a very small chance of meeting or dating anyone other than someone that would be interested in me for the wrong reasons, and I am not interested in going there.

Quote from: Jess42 on August 31, 2014, 11:34:53 PM
Does it really matte Pikachu. Lesbian, straight, cis ,trans or gay, sometime love knocks us "stupid" or just blind sides us. there is one thing that I have earned all my years on this planet and that is to keep the heart, No. 1 open and the mind, No.2 open. And that love will always find a way. And No.3 if one doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be and true love is always around the corner. Yeah I know I am a sappy hopeless romantic.

I just found it interesting. Personally, the times I've been single, I wasn't seeking any sort of relationship. I've always been the type to just wait and see what connections naturally develop between those around me rather than date/actively seek out partners. I think things work out far better with this approach, but that's just my opinion, obviously.

I picked 'other' as there really wasn't a bi option Cis isn't really a priority either... Yup, there should be a bi option, hehe...

I had to choose "Other" as well. Though I'm lesbian and only attracted physically to other girls be they trans or cis it doesn't matter to me, I just want to be loved. I've gone so so long without being loved most of you would say I'm pathetic.

So at this point in my life if, and this is a really big if peeps, someone were to come along who truly just loved me for me as a person, not for my looks, not just because I'm IS, not just because I'm trans, and especially not for what I could do for them or give them, but loved me just because I'm me, I wouldn't care whether they be male or female, trans or cis, or anything in between. I'm so so lonely and I'm about to turn 50 next month, so alone I just wanna cry.

Ali

Quote from: Allyda on September 01, 2014, 04:54:14 PM
I had to choose "Other" as well. Though I'm lesbian and only attracted physically to other girls be they trans or cis it doesn't matter to me, I just want to be loved. I've gone so so long without being loved most of you would say I'm pathetic.

So at this point in my life if, and this is a really big if peeps, someone were to come along who truly just loved me for me as a person, not for my looks, not just because I'm IS, not just because I'm trans, and especially not for what I could do for them or give them, but loved me just because I'm me, I wouldn't care whether they be male or female, trans or cis, or anything in between. I'm so so lonely and I'm about to turn 50 next month, so alone I just wanna cry.

Ali

Ally, you have one of the sweetest, most beautiful personalities of anyone I've met. You'll definitely find someone who loves you for you.

*hugs*

Please don't cry.

Quote from: Pikachu on September 01, 2014, 05:48:03 AM
I just found it interesting. Personally, the times I've been single, I wasn't seeking any sort of relationship. I've always been the type to just wait and see what connections naturally develop between those around me rather than date/actively seek out partners. I think things work out far better with this approach, but that's just my opinion, obviously.

That's just it. When you are least expecting it that is when it seems to happen. Actively looking and searching never seems to lead anywhere or for me it don't anyway. The most meaningful relationships that I have had were the ones that snuck up on me while not even looking.

Quote from: Jess42 on September 02, 2014, 11:08:33 AM
That's just it. When you are least expecting it that is when it seems to happen. Actively looking and searching never seems to lead anywhere or for me it don't anyway. The most meaningful relationships that I have had were the ones that snuck up on me while not even looking.

That's because when you are actively looking you are sending out signals, those that might be interested can be put off by it and get the impression that you're some kind of a horn dawg. When you're not looking then you appear more interesting and then there's always the question that arises "Why is this person so seemingly so not interested in me? Then they proceed to initiate things.
"Funny how those dynamics work!

Quote from: Shantel on September 02, 2014, 11:26:14 AM
That's because when you are actively looking you are sending out signals, those that might be interested can be put off by it and get the impression that you're some kind of a horn dawg. When you're not looking then you appear more interesting and then there's always the question that arises "Why is this person so seemingly so not interested in me? Then they proceed to initiate things.
"Funny how those dynamics work!

You ain't lyin' about that. It does seem like the less interested you are the more interesting you become to someone else.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 11, 2014, 09:25:47 AM
I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

aww shucks thanks!! one of them is me! 

The more I think about being in a relationship with someone the more I see myself being happier with someone who truly understands my situation and plus I love women so it feels ideal for me. Idk though being a fem gay gal makes it tough enough trying to find a cis woman to be with so I don't think my chances of finding a trans woman is any better, more than likely harder since there aren't many of us to begin with. Who knows  I remain hopeful.

@Pikachu: Thanks sweetie. I'll try not to, but when my 50th birthday rolls around at the end of next month I won't be able to help myself.

@Jess42: I truly wish I had your optimism. Believe me I'm not actively looking for romance, and haven't been for quite a while for I know I can't be intimate with anyone until after my SRS. It's just after all these years and the few times I have let opened my heart to someone who came along, it get's crushed into tiny pieces one way or another. I'm just tired of the hurt. Yea I used to believe there was someone out there for everybody, but not anymore. I've lost all hope.

Ally

WOW No "Married to Cis Male" at all (among a couple other categorys) whereas "married heterosexual MtF" seems to clearly be in the cultural majority 

MODS, is this poll "What is your sexual orientation?" still active??  (classic Nero question!)


^UP 

Wow! I'm actually very surprised at the number of mtf who are married to woman! I had no idea me being attracted to cis hetero men was out of the ordinary hahaha

I definitely fall into the other category
Im pansexual so I don't have a preference on who I date, so long as they love me for me.
Also Im single

Still single, though if I am interpreting things correctly, there is an online friend that seems to be hinting that that could change in the future.

Quote from: Charley Bea(EmeraldP) on November 06, 2014, 10:23:17 AM
Still single, though if I am interpreting things correctly, there is an online friend that seems to be hinting that that could change in the future.

Well, woohoo!

Don't get your hopes up Devlyn XD

Probably nothing will come of it, like I said I am not sure I am interpreting them correctly,  also not sure if they are saying/hinting it just to cheer me up or make me feel better about myself. There is also a significant age gap of which while it doesn't bother them(or me too much) I worry about what others will think, especially when we meet in person.