Satinjoy,
I can fully understand where you are in your transition. I have wanted for years to be able to transition but not to risk my relationship with my wife. She is apparently more rigid and less accepting in her views than your wife.
I am looking for any ways to push the envelope to get her to be more accepting. She would not, at this time, be accepting of any open and deliberate transition. However anything that could appear to be natural or medically required would be acceptable.
She has been accepting of a few minor changes in clothing without realizing just how much I enjoy the opportunity. She likes to buy and wear some similar or like clothing which can be viewed as unisex. It can be either women's or men's clothing as long as it does not appear to be strictly feminine: jeans, t-shirts, polo-shirts, jackets, sweats, unisex night shirts and a couple basic summer night gowns, Jockey "for her" plain cotton panties, plain thermol shirts and pants, and other basic items. However no skirts, dresses, slips, panty hose, anything frilly or lacey, or sexy feminine.
I might be able to gain more ground if I could find ways to subtly feminize my body and develop a more feminine appearance like developing breasts, loosing facial and body hair, or finding a medically necessary reason for the removal of those unnecessary male appendages.