Once I was intent on working on my voice with a speech pathologist because it didn't sound right to me. I call up a local speech training lady on the phone and say "I would like to make an appointment for speech therapy; I'm trans and I'm trying to sound more feminine."
She replies "okay and what is your partner's name?"
I'm like "that has to do with...?"
She goes "your trans partner? Who you're calling for--?"
I interrupt her with a very not feminine laugh and explain that I'm the one the speech therapy would be for.
She replies "oh... honey you sounds amazing, I had no idea."

*score*

Another time I was still closeted at work, though my hair was long and had been on HRT for about 7 months. Our desks got relocated to the other side of our floor near a different team. In the process of moving my stuff to my new desk I heard one of the guys in the other team talking to his friend "hey, who's the new girl?" And his friend (annoyingly) replied "nah I looked at the seating layout. That's a guy. Look how tall he is." "No way, no guys look like that."

That guy who refused to believe I was anything other than a girl is one of my closer, if idiotic, friends at work now, post outing.

It's tough being the 6'3" amazoness I am. <3

I am attending an international symposium at Nagasaki, Japan. My low manly voice is always problematic, but some foreign people called me as 'she' even after listening my 20-minute talk in English. One of my male colleague also denoted me as 'her' in English.





Japanese people are very kind and obedient. They seldom stare at me, but they do when I wear fishnet.

barbie~~

I get called "ma'am" by my patients often.  I get picked on by the nurses sometimes, but it doesn't bother me at all since it's really a confidence booster! 

Last night we had a visiting writer on campus. I've hard her visit twice in the past four years because she's near, cheap, and really good with the students. In both of her past visits (pre-transition), she and I had gone to dinner together after her reading. We are Facebook friends and reply frequently to each other's posts. After her reading and on the way to dinner, she turned to me and said, "How's _______ (my former name). I was surprised he wasn't there." It turns out that she thought I was his ex-wife who also taught in the department. I filled her in, but now I wish I would have said, "That jerk. Oh, I got rid of him."

Went through a State Trooper license checkpoint the other night with my wife in the front seat with me.  The trooper walked up to the door and before I could say anything he said "How are you ladies doing tonight?".  Kind of nice.

I was a speaker at a conference recently, on a women in videogames panel.  Midway through I talked about being trans/intersex and how it let be see misogyny and sexism unfiltered- and the good news is there wasn't any in the studios I worked in.

Anyway, afterwards a girl I was talking to for a good half an hour walks up and says she had no idea I wasn't cis, and passed on that she had overheard a number of people in the lobby talking about it afterwards also saying they had no idea.  All pleasant stories, I am told, about seeing someone proudly stand up on the subject.

So I passed to a whole conference of people for two days, even after public speaking for an hour.

I usually don't worry about passing and consider not passing my default comfort zone.  And then there are those fun moments; A female friend and i were talking about why we did not have babies and I mentioned feeling a little sad about my undeveloped uterus.  She's known me pre transition but gave me a tender look and said "oh dear what happened to your uterus?"  We had a good laugh after that.

Quote from: Emmaline on November 13, 2014, 04:23:29 PM
I was a speaker at a conference recently, on a women in videogames panel.  Midway through I talked about being trans/intersex and how it let be see misogyny and sexism unfiltered- and the good news is there wasn't any in the studios I worked in.

Anyway, afterwards a girl I was talking to for a good half an hour walks up and says she had no idea I wasn't cis, and passed on that she had overheard a number of people in the lobby talking about it afterwards also saying they had no idea.  All pleasant stories, I am told, about seeing someone proudly stand up on the subject.

So I passed to a whole conference of people for two days, even after public speaking for an hour.

Yes. I think nowadays transgender people become more confident in public, as we are connected more by the internet.

barbie~~

I love the baby/uterus/labor/period discussion stories in here!  Especially from medical professionals.

"Oh I don't have a uterus"
"Oh what happened?"
"You know, I had it one minute... Must have put it down somewhere when hunting for my keys in my purse... You know.  Forget me head if it wasn't screwed on!"

I have to get some fishnets next time I talk in Japan,

But I suspect most Japanese would have a tough time clocking a westerner.

But I am Kawaii!

Things must be looking up...  Restroom story from yesterday...

Washing hands...

an older man walks into the door, looks at me and says;
"Am I in the right area?"

Me
"Yes sir, I get that on occasion"

Him
"You sure don't look like a men's to me."


I thought my store manager was going to piss his pants!

Quote from: Ali girl on November 15, 2014, 01:45:34 PM


Things must be looking up...  Restroom story from yesterday...

Washing hands...

an older man walks into the door, looks at me and says;
"Am I in the right area?"

Me
"Yes sir, I get that on occasion"

Him
"You sure don't look like a men's to me."


I thought my store manager was going to piss his pants!

I can see why the older man thought that though.

Almost all Japanese spoke to me in Japanese, except those who attended the symposium, knowing my background clearly.
Even in the street, aged Japanese approached and greeted me in Japanese, although I do not understand Japanese.
Oh. I should mention that even young westerners in the street studied me, as I was probably the tallest person there with 4 inch heels.

When returning home, the Korean flight attendants spoke to me in Japanese, too. I guess the main reason was that my fashion looked closer to Japanese rather than Korean to their eyes (Japanese women tend to wear bold, punk-style fashion items, while Korean young women wear conservatively).

At Fukuoka airport while returning:





I am sure the two girls are Japanese, not Korean, based on their fashion.

barbie~~

Quote from: Shantel on November 15, 2014, 01:49:28 PM
I can see why the older man thought that though.

Thank you.
(Blushing)

When the doctor prescribing you testosterone asks how long you've been living as male and is shocked when you say you aren't, followed by "Oh man, you know you totally could if you wanted to right? You look GOOD."

When a gentleman gets angry at another guy because he skipped ahead you in in line and says "Excuse me she was ahead if you in line!"

When you go to a public swimming pool on a busy night, wear a two peice and enjoy yourself in the spa, sauna, steamroom and change rooms without so much as a stare!

A two peice!

I freaking pass in a two peice six months in!

I LOVE transition!!!

We were at a friends house warming party last night and my wife had a little too much to drink. (The evening before her birthday.) She was talking to a guy that asked how long we had been together. She replied that we been together 19 years and married in TN nearly 17 years ago. He looked at us and was confused and asked how could we be married in TN since gay marriage isn't allowed there are anywhere in the US 17 years ago. My wife wasn't thinking and outed me (which didn't bother me in that particular crowed of mostly artists, but I later asked her not to do that ever again and she apologized profusely about it later.) Anyway she told him that I was male as the time of our marriage. He couldn't believe it and said he would have never known.

Okay, I can't resist adding one.

You know you pass when . . . .

. . . you play an online game that has only a text chat and an icon.  So you identify female, but you choose a male icon and a unisex name to avoid getting hassled and hit on.  And every single one of the other players starts giving you advice on the things you are doing wrong if you want people to think you're a guy.

I have absolutely no idea what the heck happened there, but yes that happened to me . . . twice . . . .