Being called a ->-bleeped-<- hasn't & I don't feel it ever will bother me. I even call myself it sometimes. I don't view it as offensive & I never really have but I noticed a lot of people on here get offended when someone calls them a ->-bleeped-<-  Why is that? What's so offensive about it? It's a slur somewhat but I can't see it in a negative context unless someone is like "OH SH**, THAT'S A ->-bleeped-<-!" or something rude like that. So I'm wondering , do you guys find it rude? Or are there a lot more like me who honestly just don't care?

Quote from: TSJasmine on November 13, 2014, 03:04:45 PM
Being called a ->-bleeped-<- hasn't & I don't feel it ever will bother me. I even call myself it sometimes. I don't view it as offensive & I never really have but I noticed a lot of people on here get offended when someone calls them a ->-bleeped-<-  Why is that? What's so offensive about it? It's a slur somewhat but I can't see it in a negative context unless someone is like "OH SH**, THAT'S A ->-bleeped-<-!" or something rude like that. So I'm wondering , do you guys find it rude? Or are there a lot more like me who honestly just don't care?

I use the word sparingly. If someone says ->-bleeped-<- in passing I understand and do not jump down their throat.

I think some do not like it because of it's origin in the porn world. I myself have never received it, but if I did I would just consider the person using it to be uneducated or just uninformed. Remember, people use it because for most it is all the exposure they have had to our world. 

Come on Jessica, yeah got to give some of us other girls a chance, once again, I agree with what you're saying. LOL. I have never been called a ->-bleeped-<-. But the way I look at it as I could be called a lot worse and have been called a lot worse. But I no longer care what anybody else says or thinks so. No, it really doesn't bother me.

Hugs,

Melissa Ann

I consider the source and usually dismiss it as trite noise.  I was overhearing a conversation at an adjacent table where the guys were talking about ->-bleeped-<-s and felt my back stiffen until i laughed out loud upon realizing they were really talking about the transmission in their hotrod cars.  What they say isn't about us sometimes and really how much power do we want to give them?

reclaiming words once meant to hurt us feels empowering and i am happy to be an out, queer transgirl

Quote from: MelissaAnn on November 13, 2014, 03:14:41 PM
Come on Jessica, yeah got to give some of us other girls a chance

Got to get up quick to beat the blonde!!!! 

Jets versus Sharks

(A whistle is heard...)

If the worst thing I get called in January when I go full time is ->-bleeped-<- then I will consider it a good year.

Meh ->-bleeped-<- sounds so... as if someone doesn't takes you serious. I don't like it to be called a ->-bleeped-<-. Also because ->-bleeped-<-s are often confused with travestites when with cis people.

My mom is calling me just that to make angry but doesn't work.
I guess it doesn't bother me.
That said, I only dress en femme when I go to therapies and so far nobody insulted me. Just stares...

I really don't care if I'm called a ->-bleeped-<-. I'd rather be called a ->-bleeped-<- than a man, bloke, etc

Under breath I've heard ->-bleeped-<- or ladyboy being uttered Maybe it's my paranoia or my tinnitus. Compared to when I was growing up where I had racist slurs shouted at me (so if they really said it) then they are more cowardly than those idiots back when I was a child.

Either way I just ignore it. Sticks, stones, words, pain and all that at the end of the day.

It isn't fun, but sometimes it precedes getting suckerpunched (or worse).  Thankfully that part hasn't happened to me yet.

Oddly enough, I still use the word all the time when referring to transmissions or transformers.  I really hate it when I blow a ->-bleeped-<-.  It's usually very expensive.

If they call us ->-bleeped-<-s, can we call them cissies?

The word in itself doesn't really bother me, after all I am trans, but its the fact that it is used in a derogatory way that bothers me.

It hasn't happened to me yet.  I would never refer to myself that way.  But lazy and small-minded terms of ignorance and abuse exist for any and all socially excluded or otherised groups. They say far more about the person using them than the person receiving them.

If someone whose opinion I actually cared about said it, sure, I'd be upset (because yes, it does carry baggage, it clearly has derogatory connotations).  I'd also probably stop caring so much about their opinion.  If some random said it... meh, I don't know.  My response would depend on where my own self-image and self-esteem were sitting at the time, perhaps.  It's the same with being out and seeing myself in mirrors/windows.  If I feel good about myself, I don't care what anyone else thinks.  If I don't, then other people's (real or perceived) negative reactions amplify my own insecurities.

I'd prefer something else, and will say so. If something isn't said in malice, really, who cares?

Quote from: Kirey on November 13, 2014, 04:31:50 PM
Meh ->-bleeped-<- sounds so... as if someone doesn't takes you serious. I don't like it to be called a ->-bleeped-<-. Also because ->-bleeped-<-s are often confused with travestites when with cis people.

I'll be honest, this post is confusing me. Transgender is a blanket term that includes transsexuals and ->-bleeped-<-s among others. ->-bleeped-<- is likely to be tossed at any of the groups.

Generally, I loath unthoughtful people. People who don't think before they say something. And if they say something, it seems to be a conditioned and predictable response, a reflex, like Pavlov's salivating dogs. The empty barrels rattle the most. I simply ignore these reactionary creatures. They are not worth being present in the brilliant garden of my mind. My inner sanctum is free of such vermin.

I just think the word sounds gross. Like... are you calling my a greasy car transmission system or something? Disgusting! No, sorry, I'm not a car part.

I kinda laugh at anyone trying to be otherwise insulting with that word though. It ends up being more of their problem than mine at that point.

Quote from: Jill F on November 13, 2014, 05:09:52 PM

  I really hate it when I blow a ->-bleeped-<-.  It's usually very expensive.

Oh you funny girl, thanks for the laugh

I have never really been called a ->-bleeped-<- so i can't say for sure how i would feel. I HAVE been called a shman to my face one and all i did was stare at the person until they left so i think i would be fine. unless they got aggressive with it