So, my friend called me up today and I went to call him back and he didn't answer. So I go home put my phone on my charger, and left it there. When I look at my phone next I have 6 missed calls and 8 text message. At first he wanted to invite me to his wedding, but then he was like oh I saw your other facebook blah blah....

So I called him up and we talked. then we talked it went ok, he said he would be supportive but he was completely ignorant like he kept on saying its ok you will always be my bro.... im like I think you are missing the point. he wants me to be a groomsman in his wedding... when he told me this I slapped my head....

It could have been worse, he said he wouldn't tell anyone. and he said he would be supportive, but he is incredibly ignorant.

With all that being said I would love to go to his wedding but I don't think it would be smart for me. because at that time I will be 8 months on hormones and I am guessing a bunch of people from my past life are going to be there, and I don't think I can handle that

His side of the wedding party yes. Groomsmen please don't, from personal experience you could end up miserable and by the end of the day do something you regret.

Is he marring a mutual friend? Pending on how supportive he is don't rule yourself out from going now. My avatar is what I wore for a wedding after 8 months on only 'e'. Yes everyone is different but wearing a ladies shirt and pants, only people who knew me personally referred to me as male, (it was my sister's wedding afterall). The rest called me either by the name I introduced myself as or did not gender me at all. You may find you will enjoy yourself and have a good time.

The wedding is in 8 months that's roughly 32 weeks, don't make any decisions now that you might regret later just think about it for a little while

I have no experience with this one, but these days brides maids n Groomsman ain't exactly gender exclusive anymore, but at the end of the day you've got to do what's best for you. Sorry I couldn't be of more help on this one.

I just think going to an event like this with a friend from my old high school, isn't a good idea because I come from a really conservative area.. There are proud racist there! I don't want put myself through that

couple quotes from our conversation.

me:I going to see a doctor soon.
him: your not gonna get fake boobs are you?

him: your always gonna be the pot smoking, football playing, adam to me. ok, bro
me: facepalm

Don't know about you, but I don't have room in my life for "friends" who won't accept me as me.

Quote from: suzifrommd on November 25, 2014, 06:30:39 AM
Don't know about you, but I don't have room in my life for "friends" who won't accept me as me.

Exactly Suzi. Their relationship and shared experiences with you are based on a false perception of who you are. You, meanwhile, have moved far, far beyond where you used to be - and they haven't. So they wind up dragging you back into your past because it's all they know about you. They might not be able to accept the authentic you and you'll need to cut them out of your life if so.

Some may be able to deal with having their past shoved in their face by old friends, but I don't want to go there personally.

As far as attending the wedding goes - it might be better to bypass that in my opinion. The situation is entirely too loaded with triggers from your past.

I would think about having a frank talk with your buddy and explain that this is not a joke - and that the boobs will be real.

Quote from: Eva Marie on November 25, 2014, 09:21:11 AM
Exactly Suzi. Their relationship and shared experiences with you are based on a false perception of who you are. You, meanwhile, have moved far, far beyond where you used to be - and they haven't. So they wind up dragging you back into your past because it's all they know about you. They might not be able to accept the authentic you and you'll need to cut them out of your life if so.

Some may be able to deal with having their past shoved in their face by old friends, but I don't want to go there personally.

As far as attending the wedding goes - it might be better to bypass that in my opinion. The situation is entirely too loaded with triggers from your past.

I would think about having a frank talk with your buddy and explain that this is not a joke - and that the boobs will be real.

I hope I can get him to understand, but I cant deal with people who refuse to see the real me. 

I hate to say it but he has never been the brightest person and he was trying to be supportive. Just he had no idea how to new supportive.

Quote from: suzifrommd on November 25, 2014, 06:30:39 AM
Don't know about you, but I don't have room in my life for "friends" who won't accept me as me.

Pretty much this.

Quote from: suzifrommd on November 25, 2014, 06:30:39 AM
Don't know about you, but I don't have room in my life for "friends" who won't accept me as me.

i agree but he is extreemely ignorant I think i should sit down and talk to him and educate him on what it means to be trans. he wants to be supportive, but he doesnt know how.