So, I am not even close to reaching the point of transitioning, considering I don't know if I will even do so. However, I do dress as a girl and I always felt like my body was trying to be a girl but the male form took dominance.

I don't know if I would transition unless I would look 100% like a girl. I already have an issue with being accepted by others and I always worry about what people think so if I were to ever transition (if I ever make it that far) I feel I would need to know for certain if I would pass.

Would you still have transitioned with knowing you would not pass 100%? For those who havent yet, will you still transition regardless of the outcome. I am sorry if I sound very shallow, but I think we all have this perfect female idealized in our minds who we all want to be. If I cant be what I imagine, I wonder if I would go through with it.

Idk if it is ok, but I want to post some pics to see if you think I could pass if I were to eventually transition. I am too worried to post a face pic : p

Wait, how do I post pics???

Quote from: jasellebelle on December 07, 2014, 09:56:47 PM
Would you still have transitioned with knowing you would not pass 100%? For those who havent yet, will you still transition regardless of the outcome.

Yes, I am currently in transition, but I feel like "passing" is less about looks, and more about attitude.

Quote from: jasellebelle on December 07, 2014, 09:56:47 PM
Wait, how do I post pics???

You can use something like tinypic or postimg. That way you can make the pics private too... or erase em after you get your answers.

Hi JustASec,

thanks for your reply. You're probably right about the attitude. I assume the hormones helps feeling like that huh?

Like I said I only currently dress and nowhere near transitioning yet, but I like hearing from those who have gone through it (or going through it).

Here are some pics I took last time I did dress. Does anyone else get an amazing feeling when they dress up?? Like feeling liberated?



Mod edit: sorry, no underwear shots allowed as per Terms of Service

Hi. I understand the desire to be able to transition into your ideal passable female self, but that desire doesn't have anything to do with the reason we transition. None of us know how we'll turn out. And many of us transition regardless.

Transition is all about taking comparatively drastic steps to cure dysphoria. It's often a last resort.

Well, living in a small town like mine, you don't see a lot of beauty queens. All of the women in my family were pretty casual in how they dressed. The only time that they got dolled up was on Saturday nights out on the town. Those days are long behind them. So, as a child, that is what I used as my yardstick for womanhood, beauty, etc. I never paid any attention to the cliche stereotypes of what beauty was supposed to be. Even as a child, I knew that was a bunch of crap. Had I been born a genetic female, that viewpoint would have remained the same.

Quote from: SammyRose on December 07, 2014, 10:30:35 PM
Hi. I understand the desire to be able to transition into your ideal passable female self, but that desire doesn't have anything to do with the reason we transition. None of us know how we'll turn out. And many of us transition regardless.

Transition is all about taking comparatively drastic steps to cure dysphoria. It's often a last resort.

I get how it is supposed to cure/help the dysphoria. I just want to feel complete and I dont feel that now so I just am curious of what others felt before and during.

Women come in all shapes, sizes and attractiveness levels.... Just something I tell myself...

As for your case, you look very pretty already. Great eyes

The thing about that is that almost anyone could be passable. With enough years of hormones & surgery, it's possible for practically anyone. Okay, not EVERYONE, but a large amount of people can & do.

your reason to transition is the important part.

Passing is an attitude, just be a women and people will see a women. The fact that I'm with my son most of the time hasn't hurt since I get called his mommy, sometimes when my wife's there, he does look a lot more like me.

You pass already, if that is your pic.

As for the question: Yes, even if I would pass for 10%, I would do it. Because first and foremost, I transition for myself, not for others. If other see me as woman, great, that would be absolutely wonderful. If not, it's okay. Passing is such a difficult topic... I think I pass most of the time, but the closer people get, the less I seem to pass. I can't live stealth the way it is right now. My voice would not allow it. My body shape does not allow it. And I probably still have enough male cues. But then again, it's also about attitude.

If you can hold a conversation with someone, who looks and listens to you without having a clue that you were born the opposite gender, then you can go stealth and pass 100%.

I only had such a conversation once, and blew my cover for the sake of an interesting discussion. Who knows, maybe I do pass 100%. I really do not know. It also depends who sees me. I think in general, I will pass 80% of the time. I may reach 100% if I can ever fix my voice and maybe do some FFS. But I am not sure yet if that will solve everything.

I transitioned simply to be myself. Sure, the idea of being the perfect beauty crossed my mind - and just as quickly left, as I knew it was not going to happen.. Do I pass 100%, no probably not. I simply raise one well manicured eyebrow and move on with my day..

Quote from: PinkCloud on December 08, 2014, 01:28:04 AM
If you can hold a conversation with someone, who looks and listens to you without having a clue that you were born the opposite gender, then you can go stealth and pass 100%.

Had this happen the other day with a random stranger. It started when she complimented me on my hair. She never gave me any indication she thought I was anything but another woman. And as open as I am about it, it's not the first time it's happened. One was someone I'd been baking with for several days before I mentioned something and got that 'Priceless' look..

No. I rather be androgynous male... very feminine as if by nature. But without looking like I tried.

I'll never pass very well, if at all I think (i'm a late bloomer, lol, 46) but I'm transitioning anyway. For me.  I'll try and look my best of course, but that's still for me.  I mean no-one looks at me now and thinks 'YUMMY!' so nothing will change, lol.

No, I told my therapist from the get go if I can't blend in I will stop everything that was 7 years ago haven't looked back yet. Lost all my so called friends for being different but screw them. To each their own though.

When I first came out to myself, I felt the same way, but I don't care anymore. I have to be me pass or not.

Quote from: JustASeq on December 07, 2014, 10:38:43 PM
Women come in all shapes, sizes and attractiveness levels.... Just something I tell myself...

As for your case, you look very pretty already. Great eyes

Aw thank you.

How much would you say hrt has helped out emotionally and physically?  Would I expect many changes at the age of 30?

I wouldn't want to transition unless I would feel okay with looking like a transsexual woman.
A transsexual clockable woman is also a kind of woman.

Quote from: jasellebelle on December 08, 2014, 04:08:42 PM
How much would you say hrt has helped out emotionally and physically?  Would I expect many changes at the age of 30?

I am 28, and started HRT about 5 months ago (I was 27 then).But I was full time already pre-HRT. At this point I can say that I have noticed the changes happening physically, which puts less stress on me both overall and emotionally and allows me to feel more relaxed and confident with myself and the body I am in. I was always an emotional person, so I'm already used to my feelings getting overwhelming at times.

So basically for me, it is the physical changes of my body that affect the emotional.

Quote from: transtastic on December 08, 2014, 04:46:19 PM
I wouldn't want to transition unless I would feel okay with looking like a transsexual woman.
A transsexual clockable woman is also a kind of woman.

Wow +1000 for this post I honestly don't care if someone does clock me as long as they still treat me with respect and "like a woman"/one of the girls, use the correct pronouns etc.