I can't be the only transgender individual not invited to the family gatherings this year.  There wasn't an inkling of invite, for the first time ever, I was simply ignored in any plans to travel back to our hometown to see family.  Fun times.

Yeah, it hurts. 

But what do other people in the same situation do?  I was thinking of just making a phone call or two so I can at least have dinner with a few people I know.  Maybe a few glasses of wine  

you?

I'm on my 20th year of no invites. I like to make a real nice turkey, dressing, beets, sweet potatoes some times candied, cranberry sauce , pumpkin pie , rutabaga and tea. I use to split the turkey with my dog until he passed.

No family Christmas here either, but it's kind of a reverse I got sick of how they were acting and cut ties and moved across country. It was an endless stream of things like saying they'd support me then kicking me out of the house, I had enough of flip flopping I'll consider giving them another try when my mental health is better. I have a lot of mental health issues to manage besides being in transition right now, transition is actually really well managed.

You're not the only one.

Wrong family to be born transgender into.

No invite here either. My mother would like me along but other family members not so much.

Same here, I'm catching up with people on Boxing Day, So I will be here with my favourite family - you Guys!

So we will all have Christmas together, don't despair we won't be alone we will have a

Happy TransChristmas

Actually I was wrong...

I will be spending Christmas with my family. My adopted family. The only family I have any more.

"If you want to come, dress appropiately" (guy mode).


No wey, Jose. Not that I care. Even if I wore my most andro clothes and no makeup, I can't pass as a guy.

Quote from: Julia (Apple-Whatever) on December 18, 2014, 01:30:31 AM
"If you want to come, dress appropiately" (guy mode).


No wey, Jose. Not that I care. Even if I wore my most andro clothes and no makeup, I can't pass as a guy.

So dress appropriately!

I stay away through choice.My sister has bad arthritis and 5 kids.5 kids = 3 boyfriends & 2 girlfriends.The last thing she needs is someone else there

My family hates me. I have memorized the last things I heard from my immediate family:

Mother: "You are now an orphan."
Father: "You are a worthless piece of ->-bleeped-<- that will never amount to anything in life. You should do the world a favor and kill yourself."
Brother 1: "I am going to beat the ->-bleeped-<-got out of you!"
Brother 2: "If you use our families name I will kill you."
Brother 3: "You better watch your back because I will find you."
Brother 4: "I never want to see or hear from you ever again and don't come to my funeral." (Ironically he died and nobody told me he died)
Brother 5: "That is interesting..."
Brother 6: "You are hateful and don't ever contact me again."
Sister 1: "You are sickening and I am not your sister anymore!"
Sister 2: "I am going to stab you in the neck with a pencil while you sleep so you bleed out and nobody can hear your screams."
Sister 3: "Why don't you just date men?" (I never heard from her again)

Clearly I am not welcome...

Quote from: Natalie on December 18, 2014, 02:29:18 AM
My family hates me. I have memorized the last things I heard from my immediate family:

Mother: "You are now an orphan."
Father: "You are a worthless piece of ->-bleeped-<- that will never amount to anything in life. You should do the world a favor and kill yourself."
Brother 1: "I am going to beat the ->-bleeped-<-got out of you!"
Brother 2: "If you use our families name I will kill you."
Brother 3: "You better watch your back because I will find you."
Brother 4: "I never want to see or hear from you ever again and don't come to my funeral." (Ironically he died and nobody told me he died)
Brother 5: "That is interesting..."
Brother 6: "You are hateful and don't ever contact me again."
Sister 1: "You are sickening and I am not your sister anymore!"
Sister 2: "I am going to stab you in the neck with a pencil while you sleep so you bleed out and nobody can hear your screams."
Sister 3: "Why don't you just date men?" (I never heard from her again)

Clearly I am not welcome...

Nobody deserves a family like that.  I am so sorry to hear this.

Sister 4: "Big hugs.  You are an amazing person and have risen so far above your blood relatives that they'd need a telescope to find you now."

No holiday dinners with the family here either, I have had lunch one time with my daughter since going full time. I have not seen my grandkids at all,  My father has agreed to see me sometime but will not commit to a date and comes up with other plans when I do, so not so sure about that branch on the tree. I will be spending time with friends and  my partners kids and grandkids who think having two grandma's is the coolest thing in the world. and without doubt be on line a bit with people here. this is my second year of this so it is not so tramatic this year but last year was pretty rough for sure. and i did go and buy a smoking hot new red and white dress just for the event

xoxo
merry crisTmas to all

Well I will still be having Christmas with my wife and son. She's upset that I'm transgender and eventually we're going to divorce, but we're still going to co parent our son and spend holidays. We live together just sleep in separate rooms.

Quote from: Cindy on December 18, 2014, 01:18:00 AM
Same here, I'm catching up with people on Boxing Day, So I will be here with my favourite family - you Guys!

So we will all have Christmas together, don't despair we won't be alone we will have a

Happy TransChristmas

I'm sorry , but due to the OZ language barrier , is this what you mean by boxing day

Some of these families referred to need their ears "boxed".

Sorry to hear that people can be so mean and uncaring.

Sorry to hear everyone, I will be alone as well this year. Trying to out do last years killer dinner of a frozen pizza

Third year without an invite or even a card.

Oh well, I had to rebuild my life from the ground up after an emotional meltdown, and they didn't want to be involved in the process (even before I realized I was trans)...if they want to come back now, they're going to have to earn it. I won't forget that they abandoned me even in my least need.

My family lives far away anyway. We don't do Christmas lunch or dinner anymore because we all live so far apart, as in different coasts and different countries. And I really don't feel like flying.

I am going to have a good time with my wife and kids. That's enough for me.

I'm curious to see how many people disown me when I come fully out to them. Not that I particularly care. I've always been somewhat of a loner and I mostly live independently of my family. My inlaws pretty much disowned us after the wedding too after my protest about making it more of a family reunion rather than our wedding.

*Big hugs* to all of you who have been so deeply rejected. No one deserves what you have gone through.


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