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I joined Cupid today: did I get myself in trouble

Started by stephaniec, January 05, 2015, 07:37:38 PM

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stephaniec

I've never done anything like this and I was wondering if I should watch out for anything, I registered as me.
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mrs izzy

Just keep your wits about you for ->-bleeped-<-s.

Carry a big stick. Lol!
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CaptFido87

Well first thing you know on joining sites like these can be... how do I say... depressing at times. I mean it's probably not all that bad, but when I was on a similar site I'd message a bunch of people. Rarely did I ever get one to reply, but even harder to keep a good convo going. People on dating sites are for whatever reason kinda stuck up because they can read people's story and just automatically turn you away.

I did make one friend who I talk to semi-regularly online. so Ya never know. Maybe you'll have better luck than me.

Good Luck :-*
Hi I'm Marty. I'm a MTF Transgender who wants nothing more than to finally let Samantha (Sammi) come out and play.


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stephaniec

thanks, I heard pepper spray is a good investment
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stephaniec

Quote from: CaptFido87 on January 05, 2015, 07:57:44 PM
Well first thing you know on joining sites like these can be... how do I say... depressing at times. I mean it's probably not all that bad, but when I was on a similar site I'd message a bunch of people. Rarely did I ever get one to reply, but even harder to keep a good convo going. People on dating sites are for whatever reason kinda stuck up because they can read people's story and just automatically turn you away.

I did make one friend who I talk to semi-regularly online. so Ya never know. Maybe you'll have better luck than me.

Good Luck :-*
It's more an experiment at the moment, so we'll see what happens
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CaptFido87

Hi I'm Marty. I'm a MTF Transgender who wants nothing more than to finally let Samantha (Sammi) come out and play.


As of: 03/07/2015
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Hikari

I had good luck with OkCupid, like my girlfriend I met at Wing Ma'am, but like I talked to some cool people on OKCupid, and I was clear that I as trans on there....Granted, I only could see women, and only women could see me since, I am a lesbian, so I didn't have to worry about ->-bleeped-<-s, but it seemed to be a pretty good experience.
15 years on Susans, where has all the time gone?
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KittyKat

My experience has been kind of meh. I have a few people that I talk to, but haven't actually met anyone in person yet. My profile is using the new features to actually list my gender as Woman, Transgender, Transsexual in that order, and it seems when I go out on a limb to message a guy, they check my profile and I never get a response. when I had nothing about being transgender in my profile I had a lot more conversations with men, but when talk of going out came up I would tell them I was transgender and they would just stop talking to me. In both situations I've held decent conversations with some decent females, but honestly some of them are more of a mom chat talking about our kids.
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stephaniec

it's kind of interesting, I haven't figured the site out totally yet though, I haven't put down yet that I'm transgender, so I've got a few divorced men checking me out.
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ImagineKate

I dislike the "meat market" sites. Tends to bring out some really shallow types. I'm never really a fan of online dating in general...
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Merrydownjade

The site is not so bad, I've used it before but it's something you want to keep your wits about you with like others have said.
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stephaniec

Quote from: Merrydownjade on January 06, 2015, 05:08:48 AM
The site is not so bad, I've used it before but it's something you want to keep your wits about you with like others have said.
I think I see what you mean about keeping tour wits about you
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TaoRaven

I've had good luck and bad luck there. Met some amazing people, and had some unfortunate encounters.

Always meet people in a public place for the first time, of course.

And personally, I made the very first line of my profile "I am a transgender woman". No confusion, no surprises.

I've met and have been dating people of various genders as a result. Once in a while it starts getting a bit hectic, and I disable the account for a while.

Have some great friends and booty calls as a result...but still trying to find "the one" :(

Actually...I'm trying to figure out now what I WANT in "the one". My most rewarding experiences so far have been with other trans women. Go figure. The heart wants what it wants :)


Have fun, but be VERY careful.
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stephaniec

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Mary81

I have had mixed results of OKC. Some jerks, some nice people. I actually met the guy I am currently seeing on OKC. I decided not to advertise that I am trans in my public profile and only told people after we had been speaking for a while and when I thought it relevant. Of course that leads to the occasional insult or whatever, but at least you don't only speak to ->-bleeped-<-s.
It goes without saying that you need to be cautious,especially if you decide to meet anyone in person. But I don't think that is something specific to OKC. Definitely choose a public place for a first meeting.
Good luck. 
 
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BunnyBee

I didin't specify that I was trans and therefore I got a lot of messages from men i would have been all about but they weren't interested in dating a trans woman, and mainly they just showed me how my life could have been if I just had the right chromosomes and I found it very depressing.
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KittyKat

Quote from: BunnyBee on January 06, 2015, 10:13:50 AM
I didin't specify that I was trans and therefore I got a lot of messages from men i would have been all about but they weren't interested in dating a trans woman, and mainly they just showed me how my life could have been if I just had the right chromosomes and I found it very depressing.

Yeah, that's what made me eventually put it in my profile. It was better then talking to someone for a couple weeks pretty much everyday and then being flat out ignored. I mean not even an oh I'm not into that just no responses.
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stephaniec

yea, I have a feeling I better put trans up because I'm getting all these divorced straight guys with kids. It probably wouldn't go over too big once they found out.
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Devlyn

Quote from: TaoRaven on January 06, 2015, 09:31:17 AM
I've had good luck and bad luck there. Met some amazing people, and had some unfortunate encounters.

Always meet people in a public place for the first time, of course.

And personally, I made the very first line of my profile "I am a transgender woman". No confusion, no surprises.

I've met and have been dating people of various genders as a result. Once in a while it starts getting a bit hectic, and I disable the account for a while.

Have some great friends and booty calls as a result...but still trying to find "the one" :(

Actually...I'm trying to figure out now what I WANT in "the one". My most rewarding experiences so far have been with other trans women. Go figure. The heart wants what it wants :)


Have fun, but be VERY careful.

Same here, this is what mine says:

My self-summary

I'm transgender. If that hasn't stopped you in your tracks, feel free to write. No questions are off limits as long as they're respectfully asked.

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stephaniec

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 06, 2015, 10:56:25 AM
Same here, this is what mine says:

My self-summary

I'm transgender. If that hasn't stopped you in your tracks, feel free to write. No questions are off limits as long as they're respectfully asked.
nicely put
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