Looking good, Alana!  And that's great about your wife.  Accepting you not the separating part. 

Thank you ChiGirl. 

It's really been a roller coaster the past few weeks.  We'll be civil and come to an understanding, then next thing I say something and she snaps.  Once she told me she wished I could make her go back in time to prevent us from meeting... Ugh...  All I want is for us both to be happy... 

-Alana

Alana I am trying to get to the point of finding the courage to tell my wife the same thing you just did. In scared but hearing what you're going through gives me encouragement. I am afraid of losing her but I know this is something I must do. Thank you for sharing!!!

Quote from: Alana_Jane on February 05, 2015, 01:41:11 AM
Thank you ChiGirl. 

It's really been a roller coaster the past few weeks.  We'll be civil and come to an understanding, then next thing I say something and she snaps.  Once she told me she wished I could make her go back in time to prevent us from meeting... Ugh...  All I want is for us both to be happy... 

-Alana

Ouch!   My wife has asked me why I didn't tell her this before we got married.  I told her had I been aware of this enough to tell her, we probably wouldn't have married, no matter how accepting she was.  She told then we shouldn't have gotten married then.

Alana, I am sad to hear of your impending separation.  I really am.  However, it seems as though the coming out was an emotional liberation for you.  If I am reading that part right, I want to let you know how happy I am for you to have that.  I went through outing myself to my wife, too.  I know many of the feelings you must have gone through.  I wish you more happiness as things progress for you.

-Ainsley

I applaud you...I've been there.
Remember to keep this in mind, her understanding and feelings are just as important as your desire to come out. You shouldn't try to make it all about you, and that her feelings matter.
It's tough, I know.

Quote from: Melanie CT on February 05, 2015, 06:04:02 AM
Alana I am trying to get to the point of finding the courage to tell my wife the same thing you just did. In scared but hearing what you're going through gives me encouragement. I am afraid of losing her but I know this is something I must do. Thank you for sharing!!!

Hi Melanie, I'm sure the time will come when you're ready.  Don't rush into this as you'll need to be mentally prepared for any repercussions.  It really is their choice how your spouse will respond to this.  Stay strong, and love yourself. 
Hugs,

-Alana

Quote from: ChiGirl on February 05, 2015, 06:30:25 AM
Ouch!   My wife has asked me why I didn't tell her this before we got married.  I told her had I been aware of this enough to tell her, we probably wouldn't have married, no matter how accepting she was.  She told then we shouldn't have gotten married then.

Hey Chi Girl, 

First I want to say good luck on your journey.  I may not be a straight path, but it's all yours. 

I've been through that as well.  I guess that's why this wasn't a real shock.  2 years into our 21, I came out as I'd tried cross-dressing, and really liked it (a little too well).  I felt scared and couldn't accept myself as transgender.  So, I purged my entire clothes collection and promised I'd left it behind, forever....  Like could really keep that promise.  I'd sincerely hoped I would at the time.  Now I have to deal with the damage of keeping this buried for the past 20 to 35 years. 

-Alana

Hi Ainsely,

Love your new avatar picture.  Also, appreciate your support.  I'm glad it worked out for you and you're still with your wife and daughter. 

Miss Muffinheart,

I agree, but my wife has decided to remove herself from my life.  I have no control over that.  I do comply with all her requests as best I can.  At this point I've not really dressed in front of her other than what she's already approved.  She's also not seen my clothes.  It's all her choice.  If I'm dressed and coming though the house I'll text her to make sure she doesn't see me.  I've got to try some of your recipes one of these days.

Hugs to you both,

-Alana 

Quote from: Alana_Jane on February 10, 2015, 09:58:22 AM

Miss Muffinheart,

I agree, but my wife has decided to remove herself from my life.  I have no control over that.  I do comply with all her requests as best I can.  At this point I've not really dressed in front of her other than what she's already approved.  She's also not seen my clothes.  It's all her choice.  If I'm dressed and coming though the house I'll text her to make sure she doesn't see me.  I've got to try some of your recipes one of these days.

Hugs to you both,

-Alana

I feel for you Alana. If I could have a wish, it'd be that my ex and I could be friends. One day perhaps, but 6 years have gone by now, so all I can do is wait.
Most of my recipes are fairly simply, where I'm focusing most of my energy is becoming queen of the one pot meals. Love slow cookers, dutch ovens and casseroles. Cheap, and easy...."that's what she said"