I like that reply BunnyBee.  It's like when I'm taking to a few friends about my hospital visit and the aftermath and I realise one of the group doesn't know what I'm talking about and is getting more and more confused.

I don't post in this section often. If I pass I do, if not I don't care. I know I don't pass on the phone- usually. I had to call the IT help line at work about a computer issue, the log said. User XXXX reported that her outlook calendar wasn't working. Rebuilt access to server B, checked she was OK with access. Report closed.

I passed on the phone!

I pass on the phone most of the time.  Enough to feel put out when I don't.

Had to call the Sheriff last night because a truck kept slow rolling along our property line last night.  They came by 4 times in 15 minute intervals.  A bit disconcerting when you can see for a mile in each direction with two other houses in sight from ours.  So the Sheriff shows up and addresses my wife and I as ladies and keeps calling me ma'am the entire time.  I had sweats and a t-shirt on.  Still had makeup on and my hair was still nice from being at work.  When he left my wife high fived me and said "How about that!?".

Felt pretty good.

Quote from: ainsley on January 30, 2015, 10:05:59 AM
When he left my wife high fived me and said "How about that!?".

What a great wife! 

One of the players at the casino I work at just asked me if I was related to a certain friend of his, because I look exactly like that friend's daughter. ("Spitting image.")

Considering how often I seem to criticize myself for not looking like any cis-women I ever see in terms of facial structure and body shape, that one felt good.

It's so true about tween/teen girls.  I was purchasing some tights at Macy's yesterday when I saw couple of tween girls playing with one of their smart phone.  That means I suspect one took a picture of me and posted it online.  As I walked out I felt really self conscious, even picked up a wad of gum on one of my heels... Ugh

Then I went and got some lunch at Panera bread.  While in line, I had a nice conversation with Alice.  She called my hon and touched my arm like GG's do.  I asked if she was on lunch break from one of the stores, to which she told me she was retired.  My reply of "I truly would have never have guessed that." got a laugh.  She was such a sweet lady.  So I guess other than drunks and teen girls I pass pretty well.  I can't wait to start HRT adventures. 

-Alana

I just love this thread.  seeing all the great successes is amazing.  I still don't see much change but it must be happening.  I have been getting ma'am a lot...

I was at a local sheetz and the girl who was working called me over (miss) to the register, there was a vacuum in the way and the other employee made the comment about it.  As the female employee looked back at me I shrugged and said no big deal, she look back at the other employee and said "see, she doesn't mind."

This "passing" has not come without complication.  Bathrooms at work are becoming very difficult and customers are stating that "Mike" is a weird nickname for a girl.  Then I had to take my middle daughter and eldest doctor to separate appointments.  The dentist told my oldest "It is nice your aunt was able to bring you..." she was like yea it is.  but the frustration was my middle child.  I took her to our normal pediatrician who we have used for over 13 years and it was next to hell.  He kept asking me who I was and what my relation was to said child.  I said "Father..."  mack and jess also "defending" my parental status and he gave up.  on the return appointment my poor wife got 50 questions about "that woman" and who she was, why she had the kids....  finally wifey was like "she has been transgender for years.... your just noticing?"  Then he asked if our kids needed to talk to anyone ( like I am some kind of evil...) and she replied "No, the kids are fine with it... I am the only one who has had to work with acceptance."

Parents are also noticing more... Mom said she wasn't ready for a skirt or dress but she is trying...  well  it is progress when she has known for 4 years....

Amazing how we strive to pass yet if it comes to soon and the information doesn't match the visual... it can create havoc.

Ali 

Quote from: Alana_Jane on February 01, 2015, 11:11:30 AM
It's so true about tween/teen girls.  I was purchasing some tights at Macy's yesterday when I saw couple of tween girls playing with one of their smart phone.  That means I suspect one took a picture of me and posted it online.  As I walked out I felt really self conscious

Same thing happened to me a couple weeks ago with a couple teenage girls in target.  Their trans-dar is as finely attuned as ours, but the difference is that when I clock another trans woman I think "good for her" not "I need to take a picture and put it on Instagram."  It's a fine line (not really).

Was at a meetup for lesbians yesterday. Usually I get clocked right away at these things because they're on the lookout for transgirls and a 5'11" gawky girl sets off their transdar.

I was talking with 3 other women one of whom was a divorce lawyer. Others of us were talking about our divorces. One of the other women talked about divorcing her husband. Then the lawyer turned to me and asked whether my divorce from my "husband" was final.

Quote from: suzifrommd on February 02, 2015, 06:21:48 AM
Was at a meetup for lesbians yesterday. Usually I get clocked right away at these things because they're on the lookout for transgirls and a 5'11" gawky girl sets off their transdar.

I was talking with 3 other women one of whom was a divorce lawyer. Others of us were talking about our divorces. One of the other women talked about divorcing her husband. Then the lawyer turned to me and asked whether my divorce from my "husband" was final.

Yes. It's great!

barbie~~

I really can't wait until I pass enough where an officer can pull me over and use my preferred terms. LOL

I really prefer for the cops not to have to pull me over!  I'm doing pretty well face to face and by now cold callers and scammers usually call me "ma'am".  That was more difficult.

I had a really embarassing meeting at the weekend with our landlord and her mother. We knew our landlord for 3 years now but this was the first time when we met her mother.

I did not come out to our landlord yet so she thinks that we are a heterosexual couple with my girlfriend so I tried to be as manly as I could be for the meeting because I really did not want to come out at this time.

I introduced myself to our landlord's mother as <male_birth_name>.

After the introductions her first words were along the lines of "...oh girls eat some cake and fruit..."

It seemed that nobody noticed the "girls" part apart from me, but I knew that this meeting will be interesting.

We finished discussing the possibilities and then she asked us if my girlfriend and I are relatives. We were a little puzzled and answered no and our landlord quickly added that "How could they be relatives, they are a couple, they live together for years!"

Our landlord clearly missed the fact that her mother seen both of as girls and at that point she was a little shocked that we are a lesbian couple, but she took it alright, she didn't ask any more questions about the topic

And when I thought it couldn't get more exciting my girlfriend made the mistake of using my female name when talking about me. I'm quite good at hiding my emotions but I almost panicked and quickly  tried to steer the conversation in an other direction so they wouldn't have time to process what they heard.

Fortunately our landlord had some other things on her mind so hopefully she missed all the strange parts of the conversation but I think she had her own strange conversation with her mother afterwards

I cannot go on like this forever. I'm not feeling up to coming out at work and going fulltime yet, but in situations like this I'm no longer capable of telling someone that I'm male if they think I'm female. I'm female even if my ID says otherwise at the moment.

It seems my life would be a lot easier if I just ignored all my fears and insecurities and gone fulltime already and work on my problems as I go along.

I came out to the other residents in the flats where I live.  Then a little later I transitioned at my church.  Then a bit later the big one - at work.  It can be done but there are risks if someone from one contexts meets you in another.

I had SRS and transitioned in 1974. I never thought about "passing". I wanted to be a woman and I finally WAS one so there was no passing involved - just a statement of fact - and nobody ever batted an eyelash.

I was away from the community from 1974 until about 10 years ago and didn't give any thoughts to such things until I started reading the forums.

I was sitting in the change room at the rink one day getting ready for figure skating and thinking about "passing". When I looked up there were mothers getting their young daughters changed and teenage girls stripping down from their street clothes to get into their practice dresses and nobody was paying the least bit of attention to me. I chuckled to myself. Apparently "passing" was a non-issue LOL!

Window shopping at the Harley Davidson shop when the salesman told me that if I bought a new Sportster then I automatically got free mebership of the owners group and I could join the ladies section.

When I started going to my current school, none of the people from primary school who go there recognized me. It was awesome.

Really started noticing that strangers are more friendly than before, especially guys.  Just little things like smiling, saying hi, wanting to chat...things they'd never do to another guy.

Yesterday I was chatting with a guy in a waiting room and told him I have 4 kids.  His next question was, "Wow!  And are you a single mom?"  I've heard people say that "wow" to my wife a thousand times to show they're impressed that she gave birth four times!  I've never received that admiration before.  So, not only did he assume that I was their mother, he was also phishing to see if I was single.  Yeah...that's a pretty good pass if you ask me.

This one was awkward . I was taking kiddo over to my ex and there was one woman in the bus, asking for directions (she needed to know which connections to take to get to distant shopping mall) - so I helped her out, we chatted a bit and we had to leave on the same station and go for the same next one.
She complimented kiddo and told that she has four children, all grown up etc etc etc and then she asked for my name (we were having conversation in Russian, which has some relevance here) - I fething hate when people ask for my name when I am dressed very andro because I never know how they perceive me. So, I thought that my voice kinda sucks, and this andro outfit was more male-leaning anyways, so I gave her my male name (in Russian - where it does not have the distinctive male or female ending). I look at her face and it gives literally no signs, and she admits that this is very rare name and she has never met anyone with such name.
Oh well. We go to the next station and keep chatting, and she asks which kindergarten we are attending - I reply giving the location which is on the other side of the city. She comments that it must be pretty far and I reply that it's ok, because during working week kiddo stays with mother and she takes her to kindergarten. She comments that kiddo must be missing her mommy then  (me  - ) - I reply that nope, she is with mother for five days in the row. She says, but You just told that she is spending that time with granny. (me - even more ?!?). So I say, nope, she is spending the working week with HER mother, not my... Lady: so, she is not Your daughter then? Me (confused) - nope, she is my daughter. Lady - even more confused - but You just said...
And then I realised...