Hey all, I hope everyone is having a good day.  I'm doing a project for school and I need to get a list of the most common and ridiculous things that are said are asked to trans people. So, lay it on me!!

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I don't think I pay much attention to dumb assumptions and ideas about being trans at this point, it's become such a common experience, but let me think...

I remember back when I was first coming out and immersing myself in the trans community, I got a lot of pushback from some people for being attracted to women and having zero interest in men. One girl gave me this big diatribe about how awful trans lesbians were and made us out to be creepy predators who went to support groups to mack on ladies, lol. It was so over the top, it made me laugh, and is probably why it still sticks out in my mind.

By the way, Preston, I like your avatar pic. You look pretty badass. I've always wanted to tattoo my arms.

Thanks Sunderland! You should do it!

I have gotten so many stupid questions I'd have to write a book to get them all on paper haha, I cant pick the most stupid one either so ill just tell a few, and my answers to them.

- oh so you're becoming a woman? (I'm ftm) my answer: Lol

- how do you have sex? My answer: Super awesome

- do you have a penis? My answer: Oh I didn't realize you wanted to have sex with me, lets get down to business then and you'll find out

Are you still called Jimmy?
Red hair down to my***s,red nail polish,eyeliner, not very likely Einstein!

Question like:

"Why are you trans?"
"You could just remain gay, why did you become trans?"
"God created you a man, why do you wanna become a woman?"
"Are you mentally sane?"

And many more craps pffft

***Top 10***

"So you cut it off?"
"Are those like implants?"
"So you like men now? I always suspected you might be gay."
"Can't you just take antidepressants?"
"Why would you set yourself up to be beaten, raped or killed?"
"It's the devil doing this to you." 
"Why would anyone want to flush their male privilege down the toilet?"
"So do you still play guitar?"
"Do you still use your tools?"
"Do you still use your tool?"

When I came out one of the first things my mom said to me was "Please don't kill yourself." I've never had a history/diagnosis of depression and my therapist didn't pick up anything when I was looking to start T, so as you can imagine I was a little shocked. Guess they just knew the numbers/suicide risk and feared the worst? I don't know if it's really as ridiculous to others as it was in my scenario, but idk, I thought I'd share.

I was asked by my female hairdresser, "What's oestrogen?"

When I came out to my parents, my father was so upset, he said, trying desperately to come up with an argument, "Well, I'm never gonna be a major league pitcher, but that doesn't mean I'm going to cut my right arm off!"

From my mum I got

You shouldn't do it because you'll end up alone....cis people are obviously NEVER alone/single
You shouldn't do it because you'll be an ugly woman......cis women are obviously NEVER ugly
No one would want to be with you......as a man I certainly didn't want to be with me now I'm content with who I am

One conversation I had went something like this

I'm a transwoman
So you're gay
No I'm attracted to men
So you're gay
No if I was gay I'd like women
But you're a man so you're gay
I'm not a man I'm a woman
So you're gay

I eventually gave up on this conversation out of pity for the man, it looked like his brain was on the verge of a meltdown.
There have been so many stupid things said that it's hard to separate them, they just blur into one big blob of stupid.

One that was comical and dangerous in equal measure was when someone voiced their objection to me "doing the gender slip", I had to fight back the urge to laugh, the first thing that popped into my head was the tune of the timewarp from rocky horror with the words...

"Let's do the gender slip again, its just a jump to the left...and the a slip to the riiiiiiiigght, then you grow some hips, and your penis drops offfff"
I had to hide my smirk as the person was at that point threatening to smash a plate of curry in my face as my presence was apparently putting him off his food.

When I came out at work, the school system lawyer said that women would not want to be in the same restroom as I would if I had different genitals.

How would they know?

   It is totally impossible to fix STUPID. I have been asked about every one of these questions especially the GAY one. DUH, I am a woman and I like some guys so I am as they say straight but I also like women too so I am a lesbian, so I guess liking both makes me bi, nothing like confusing the confused. End of conversation.

I've now come out to my family, all my friends, and several acquaintances whom I see perhaps once or twice a year. The only really stupid reaction I've had came from one of the latter, a diehard lesbian feminist whose social and political development came to a crashing halt sometime in the late 70s.

She said just about every stupid thing possible, and topped it off by asking why I couldn't just (do the politically correct thing and) live as gender-non-conforming woman. This was AFTER I had explained that I had tried to do exactly that for approximately 40 years, and that the net result had been a very near brush with suicide a few months earlier.

She also managed to offend a good friend of mine who was present, an Ojibwe woman who identifies both as a dyke and as two-spirited, by going on about the way "Native People" are so accepting of two-spirited folks. My friend had a thing or two to say about that, given the hatred and discrimination she's experienced from her band.

I'm MTF and was asked " if your attracted to woman why would you want to become one?"

All of the above.

Two recent ones when I told someone I was trans (on the phone to explain my phone account being under the wrong name). Oh that's cool, my brother is Gay (so what was my reaction! But I didn't say anything).

During a radio interview. Interviewer: When did you decide to become a woman? Me: I was born one, my gender was assigned on my genitals and not my brain. Interviewer: 20 second pause (a long time on radio), Oh!

"What?  You mean you don't want to get a man?"

My mother's side of the family was always very volatile about my gender identity and I learned from a very early age to try and hide it.

I recently came out to my father's side (who I recently found). My dad is gay and totally accepts me as his homoflexible son. He asked lots of questions about how the surgeries for transmen worked and my plans for the future. My sister from that side always has the most amusing questions. These were my favorites:

"You're on hormones but your looks are gonna stay the same?"
"Are you going to get surgery so you can grow a beard?"

I don't know if this counts but, "What is it like to be a ->-bleeped-<-? I'll bet fun."


I was so shocked at the thought, I never answered and just walked away.