Sorry you're mom is in Hospice. and yeah, it can make you nervous, but you'll get through it.
I remember when I had to see family I hadn't seen in a very long time in Georgia when we went down to take care of my grandma's ashes, I was already living as me and carrying a purse and all that, not a one of them said anything about it, lol. I never offered an explanation for anything either. I figured I wasn't close enough to any of them for it to matter.
And people, stop putting cats in bags, its inhumane!!!