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Started by Aubrey1day, March 16, 2015, 04:07:42 PM

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Aubrey1day

Thank you Gennee *Hugs*. I did get a good cry and I am sure it won't be the last. :/

I am gratefull that so far my family is supporting me. I am really anxious to get the talk over with my little sister though! She lives with me so her acceptance is the key to my freedom if only at home. I have always been super close to my sis so I think it will go over well. *Anxiously dances about the room*

Arkansas is a beautiful place but I am a little worried about finding a progressive place of work that will accept me as I move forward.



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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antonia

Don't worry too much, sisters are easy, brothers are harder and dads are tough :D

I've never heard about a bad reaction from a sister :)
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Aubrey1day

Mhm, I sort of figure she will be like "That explains a lot of things." :D



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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antonia

What my mom told me was (translated) "OMG, you look just like I did 20 years ago, it's scary, like looking in a mirror that never existed"

I think that was the best compliment I ever got :D
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Aubrey1day

That is awesome and I can totally understand how great that would feel. =D

I am not sure how I will turn out. I have just always more or less forced myself to present as my birth gender. Though my proportions seem favorable. I am only 5' 7" and my facial features are not very masculine. Fairly small of frame but I am at 190lbs so I want to drop another 35 to 40 pounds before I see a therapist and work towards HRT.

Regardless of what the future brings having just taken these first small steps has brought me so much peace.



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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Ayden

More hugs.

I'm sorry for your loss. I am glad to hear that your family is supportive.

Get cozy around here, you'll find that we are all very friendly. This is a great place to talk to others and seek out support. I'm from Alaska, another conservative state, and my family is from Kentucky and Texas. You'd actually be surprised by how little resistance and much understanding I got from people despite the conservative air of all three states.
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Aubrey1day

I could not bare waiting any longer so today I came out to the last person that really matters to me. My little sister (She is 26) and while I figured she would be okay with it she just absolutely blew me away.

I was sitting across the room sobbing when she spun around in her chair, walked over, and gave me the biggest hug! She said how proud she was of me for doing something so hard. That she would support and help me with anything I needed going forward. *Beams brightly* That of course made me start sobbing even worse but they were tears of relief mostly.

I feel free for the first time ever! *Takes a deep breath then just twirls happily*

:) :) :) :)

Edit: Oh, and that she wished my hair would hurry and grow out so that she could fix it up for me. =D

Double Edit: I let her read this thread and then she had a few questions but all and all that was soooo much easier that I had excepted.



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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Stanna

Aubrey, I'm so sorry for your loss.  However, it is wonderful to hear that your sister loves you and accepts you for who you are! It does feel liberating when the people that we love, accept, support and love us for who we truly are. I am happy you "feel free for the first time". Best wishes for you moving on in your life.

Hugs,   Stanna
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Aubrey1day

*Hugs Stanna*

The service for my father is tomorrow so I have no doubt it will be a hard day but I have had months to prepare for his passing. I'm keeping my head up and moving forward, it is what my dad would have wanted. As for my sister, she continues to amaze. She has been giving me all sorts of tips to consider for the future and is showing a real interest in learning more about this side of me. *Smiles*



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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LauraSpiral

Welcome to Susan's, Aubrey! If you need to talk about anything, need someone to confide in, feel free to message me :)
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Aubrey1day

*Waves to LauraSpiral* Thank you for the welcome, I will definitely make a mental note of your offer to chat. Though today I have been feeling sort of quiet...lots of things to think about and too much free time to do nothing but think.

My sister and I are going to cook dinner and watch a funny movie later tonight though. Any suggestions on a movie? :D



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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LauraSpiral

Hmm, Comedy wise...? We're The Millers is amazing. x)
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Aubrey1day

She said she has seen it but wants to watch it again. =D

On a less positive side note I bumped heads with religion tonight. I knew it would happen eventually but it still sort of caught me off guard.

My sister told her fiance about my coming out and what I intended to do. (transitioning from MTF) She said he was shocked but has always been close minded because of how old school he was raised. He insinuated that she was "not a good woman nor a good Christian." All because she didn't tell me right away when I came out to her yesterday that it was "Against Gods plan." (That old line... *Rolls her eyes*) She kicked him out of her car for saying that to her though so. *hi5's her sis*

She said that he was right in that she needed to express how it didn't go along with her beliefs as a Christian. My sis told me that she had no place to judge anyone though and would love and support me regardless and just wanted me to be absolutely sure this is what I want to do.

I'm a little mixed up on what I think or feel about it but as long as my sis supports me then it's whatever. Her fiance will get over it just like he did my bi cousin and the fact that my sis was very much bi before they met.



"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts
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V M

Hi Aubrey :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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