Hello, my name is NordicSofia. I registered nearly a year a go, but have been just lurking and reading posts here. I'm 38 years old and I have been seriously uncertain about my gender identity for couple of years now. As my nickname says, I come from the Nordic countries, Finland to be specific.

At he moment I concider myself mtf-transgender-something.

I have always had a feeling that where is something wrong in my life or that something is missing, but I really can't say that I have always felt like trapped in a wrong body or something like that. My whole life I have felt somewhat unmasculine, and have some traits that are concidered "soft" and "feminine".

I crossdress, but that alone doesn't fill my need to be a woman.

I'm married and closeted. Just before I found my wife and got married, I had a strong feminine/crossdressing period. Those days I even had ideas of living as a part-time woman.

So, now I'm married but my identity hasn't changed, vice versa it has grown stronger during the last couple of years.

I haven't taken any actual steps towards a transition yet. I'm just reading these trans-related websites and gathering information and thinking. I really don't know what to do with my life. Or perhaps I know, but I feel I don't have the courage yet...

Susan's looks like  a friendly and supportive community. I'm lookin forward to continue my journey with you.

Sofia

Hi Sofia welcome to Susan's. Hopefully you can find answers here.

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Hi Sofia and welcome to Susan's. A good therapist would be great way to sort out your feelings and gender identity. I'm sure many of the posts on this site along with some from you in the future will also help you along your journey. I look forward to seeing you around the site. Hugs and good luck
Mariah

Hey!

Welcome to Susan's

Thank you everyone 

Hello and welcome *hugs*

You could have a look here for a few thoughts that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,185096.msg1646042.html#msg1646042

I'd say take the time you need... its a process, but many gone it before and succeeded, and people here will try to support you.

And you might keep asking questions, alone writing might help getting a better view...


There was a person from sweden with a question concerning therapists, maybe this could help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,185160.msg1647247.html#msg1647247



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Thanks Laura and mrs izzy 

There is a local trans support centre that offers group meetings and private counseling. I also have read about the actual transitioning process, but going to see a counselor/therapist or meeting other people IRL just feels like a very big step at the moment. I WAS actually thinking about getting in touch with the trans support centre last year but... Well, maybe I really just need a little more time.

Quote from: NordicSofia on March 25, 2015, 04:49:54 PM
Thanks Laura and mrs izzy 

There is a local trans support centre that offers group meetings and private counseling. I also have read about the actual transitioning process, but going to see a counselor/therapist or meeting other people IRL just feels like a very big step at the moment. I WAS actually thinking about getting in touch with the trans support centre last year but... Well, maybe I really just need a little more time.

I'd say take the time you need...

well and you could try to play a bit with hair and clothing styles and see how it makes you feel...

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