My own feelings are very similar to yours which I guess is not surprising given that I'm also pansexual although I honestly think the individual is so important that I can't really say I've got a preference for one or the other, just all depends on the person.

Quote from: Ashey on March 27, 2015, 03:04:06 PM
I'm pansexual, but to keep things simple.. With Men, sometimes it's hard to tell. Sometimes looking at a guy just 'does it' for me. Or their smell... so I know some of it is hormonal. Otherwise, maybe just because they're so different from me, and therefore are a bit interesting. Beards, I've learned, are nice too. Height, muscles, etc. Nice things too. I guess there's no real mysterious reasons for liking them at all. It's all pretty typical stuff. And well, a big reason is penises. Or I hope it's a big reason... However, men also frustrate the crap outta me a lot of the time for various reasons. Plus they scare me sometimes. My boyfriend sometimes gets this rage built up and when it comes out, it's very frightening. So that's the downside to masculinity, and their size and muscles and all that. Nice when they're on your side, protecting you, but not when they could potentially turn against you...

As for women, I'm simply much more attracted to them physically, and have a broader range of 'types' that I like. Women are beautiful. But beyond appearance, it's nice to relate with women mentally and emotionally. Women are also generally cleaner and nicer and gentler, which I like. So I lean more towards liking women. And someone brought up the point that men make them feel more feminine. Well, I could relate to that at first, but now.. There are times I actually want to butch it up a bit. Not necessarily because I want to be a 'top', and not necessarily to attract more femme women (because I like butch and anything in between too), but I guess maybe I've gotten past that need or desire to be with men as a counterpoint to feel more secure. I'm secure enough in my femininity that I don't need the contrast to feel more like a woman. Hopefully I'm not offending anyone with any of this, just my own personal feelings and observations here. Anyway, my attraction to women has also changed as I've transitioned. Took me a while to figure it all out and I still haven't completely. But my former attraction to women was based on being 'a guy' and now it's very different. So I'm still getting used to liking women as a woman, but I really feel that I would be happier in a relationship with a woman.

Hmmm.  I am not the most sexual person on earth so it's few and far between that I am ever attracted to somebody, but when I am it can hit pretty hard.  Thinking back, it's been several different types of guys.. Intelligence is a big thing, but not just being smart, also having self-confidence and apparent emotional strength, if that makes sense?  Showing me even a glimmer of attention too, that helps.  Being tall helps also, but I'm quite tall so that's just a given.

So idk exactly, but I know it when I feel my heart flop and my cheeks flush.

What attracts me to a man is his maleness. He is the yin to my yang. Love his height, his strong arms and his beautiful long man legs with perfectly developed muscles (my pet peeve is the legs and arms with beautifully shaped strong hands and feet because otherwise, it is a turn off to me.  I can spend hours just twirling my fingers through his hands. He has to be highly intelligent and be able to carry a conversation about most every subject. He has to be deeply spiritual and it helps if he has a different view point. He must be very sensuous in the romance department.  He has a wonderful sense of humor and can make me laugh and joins in with me when we people watch. And if he has red hair --- oh my!  it's like a fire I can't put out -- it's my weakness.  He will want to live his life alongside mine so that we can see each other turn old and gray and be ever so happy.  And guess what? I married him 

As for attraction to women, I have no clue. No attraction there beyond sisterhood friendship.

I'm pansexual so what attracts me to the various gender identities is personality first, then body. For males, having grown up with them; I find them easy to relate to. A man's world is so straight forward and many present themselves as such, which I love. It helps when they share in your interests (of the nerd persuasion in my case). Like many of you have said, I just feel more feminine with a man and the often candid interest in me really boosts my self-esteem xD Body wise, I do like a muscular form and them being taller than me but my standards are very simple, if not easy. Winning personality and little body hair/well groomed in places, and you're good in my books. Lots of bonus cookies for mutual interests.

With women I do feel a bit more top I guess, for a lack of a better term. Though I do physically like women more but personality wise I've become much more strict. I'm not quite ready to call myself a tomboy but if I end up feeling that way more often than not, then it's a turn off. I want to feel equally feminine in a relationship with women. Where we're both good girlfriends having a strong co-dependence with each other. With that ability to communicate comes a wider range of emotions to read, making problem solving far more complex. Makes it feel like you're walking on glass at times. When it's good it's cloud nine, when it's bad it's...well hell =p

I like a man who can take charge and who can dominate me yet is kind and caring. I like one who can have fun and tell a good joke and who can be naughty as well as nice. Physically I have to say (sadly) height and physique but someone who can smile and brighten the room.

Women? Well I like those who are friendly and kind too and who can do stuff together, but more tomboy/guy stuff. The women I really are attracted to are into cars and guns. I really have a thing for car geeks, street racers and the like. My wife is none of the above...

women are beautiful, but I've always, always wanted to be one, but I still love the friendship and sexuality of a woman. Men I know can have screwed up mentality sometimes and a lot of guys I just am afraid of, but there are men that just drive me insane with their sexuality .

I guess life would be so much simpler if I could solve the riddle of why the thought of having a man physically penetrate me by means of having my own vagina. It's just the one fantasy that wont go away no matter how much therapy or logic is applied. The sensation of love making and orgasm is so beautiful. Even if I achieve that beauty whether with a man or a woman , I just can't free myself of the absolute necessity of being female. Logic just won't solve the issue even after many years of life experience and basic physical reality , I so desperately desire a mans penetration of my vagina. God how much  simpler life would be.

With disregard to my highschool years, I was never very sensual in my sexuality to begin with. I suppose to categorize my interests, I would say... Bisexual? I'm more so attracted to men I think, but I'm not really sure. There are things that I'm too picky about that prevents me from really being attracted to anyone. It usually has something to do with smell. I haven't met a man that had an odor I liked.

Actually disregard that completely. I thought of someone, then another, then few more, then a dozen-

With women I've found myself interested but never aroused? I can appreciate beauty, glow, emotion in the eyes. I've never been turned on. Maybe one time? By accident? I might be crossing the bisexual waters, not quite there.

I am bi-sexual.. who was a lesbian.. my attraction to men kinda surprised as it developed during hrt.

Women, I love woman with nice legs and breasts is a second. i prefer shorter women. The last woman I dated had all these qualities and the relationship was more of a physical attraction... but i found myself wanting a man as a long term partner.

Men.. I never really had a preference here and my current boyfriend who i am in a long term relationship with seems to be my type.. He is very intelligent as i love having intelligent conversations.. he has quite broad shoulders from his workouts.. it really turns me on when i see him doing weights. He also has a relatively large tattoo on his right shoulder when i really love, he wants one also done on his left one too..i cant wait... I like stubble, not a beard.. i like a mans man.. and the fact his very well endowed is a huge bonus  . I want a man to be in charge in the bedroom as I am very submissive in the bedroom.

I never had any interest in boys. As for girls: I only dated two of them once and another either twice or three before meeting my wife. I was just 19 and she was 17 when we first dated and we got married about 2 1/2 years later. We just celebrated our 50th anniversary and I have never had any real interest in anybody else.

I can't find any one thing (over another) that has attracted her to me. As previously indicated, I frequently felt that I should have been a girl and I still have that desire. However, I don't want to do anything that would hurt our relationship. It would be great if there was a way for me to be a woman at least part time with her.

Quote from: noleen111 on March 29, 2015, 05:50:15 AM
I am bi-sexual.. who was a lesbian.. my attraction to men kinda surprised as it developed during hrt.

Women, I love woman with nice legs and breasts is a second. i prefer shorter women. The last woman I dated had all these qualities and the relationship was more of a physical attraction... but i found myself wanting a man as a long term partner.

Men.. I never really had a preference here and my current boyfriend who i am in a long term relationship with seems to be my type.. He is very intelligent as i love having intelligent conversations.. he has quite broad shoulders from his workouts.. it really turns me on when i see him doing weights. He also has a relatively large tattoo on his right shoulder when i really love, he wants one also done on his left one too..i cant wait... I like stubble, not a beard.. i like a mans man.. and the fact his very well endowed is a huge bonus  . I want a man to be in charge in the bedroom as I am very submissive in the bedroom.

nice relationship

I am attracted to men. i like girls.. but love men. I like someone who i know is going to protect me, someone who is kinda tall, sweet, who goes out oh his way to do things with you. I am madly attracted to when guys act corny, really sweet