Another 0%er here.. I know there is someone out there and she won't have been the first.

To be honest I am getting loads more interest from people now, than the old me ever did!

Mind you, I suppose old-me had the appearance of a football hooligan, and the personality of a giggly girl ... not very congruent :~D

I hope I can find a companion     , but I'm quite happy  changing into a butterfly

My choice to transition was made with the full knowledge that a transwomen my age was going to have very low odds of finding an accepting man. But I don't need a man in my life to get by. It would be great, and I'd love it if it happens, but I am learning to be happy with and as myself. And nobody can take that away from me, whether or not I'm lucky enough to have a partner for the rest of my life.

I went with 50%, but not really because it makes or breaks a transition. It's a few things.

I guess I kind of used relationships as an anchor to keep me from transitioning. With each new relationship, I was able to keep the trans part of me at bay less and less. The last one was on the back burner for less than a week. That's when I realized a transition was imminent.

I've always known relationships were a lost cause for me, but with the transition on the horizon, it makes me think that doesn't have to be the case, so now instead of being an anchor to keep me away from a transition, it's something to look forward to during and/or after.

Quote from: sparrow on April 19, 2015, 11:10:32 PM
I've been married longer than I've been aware of my transgender status.  I spent a while being ashamed and hiding things from her until I absolutely had to tell or burst... but now I'm sharing every little detail that I learn about HRT, etc., and she's gotta be on board before I do anything.  She doesn't have veto power since it's my body, but I need her to have a hand in the decision-making, since I want her to be comfortable with it.  We meant our vows, and it never ceases to amaze me how much this process is reaffirming that.

That works if your partner accepts, but in my case she said she is not a lesbian and won't accept no way no how. Betrayal is how she put it, even up to this day. But if you have an accepting partner, by all means.

It would be nice to have a future partner but it is not first on my list.

Angelgrl

Quote from: iKate on April 21, 2015, 12:53:30 PM
That works if your partner accepts, but in my case she said she is not a lesbian and won't accept no way no how. Betrayal is how she put it, even up to this day. But if you have an accepting partner, by all means.

Accepting partner privilege?  Yes, I've got it.  I do now, anyway.  It took 2 years before we could have a conversation about it where I didn't come out scarred.  And that is far from a sure thing even today.

My wife "isn't a lesbian" too.  I'm "the exceptional girl".   The distinction sounds thin to some... but we all know how much it hurts to be mislabeled.