Quote from: Bleeps and Bloops on May 01, 2015, 06:04:53 PM
It's very coarse and thick and it grows straight up. Seriously, even if I try to get it to go down it goes straight up again. It's gets very thick on the sides and in the back and curls and looks ridiculous. Again, straightening it doesn't really change this and it's so dense the hairs on top are forced upwards. I don't see it having the capacity to fall like female hair does and it getting longer just turns it more and more into an unmanageable afro. Also I feel bad if that's the only perception you have of my male face because, like I said, that's not a very nice pic of me.
I always feel frustrated when I see girls complain about not having straight Caucasian hair. You know, thick, wavy or curly hair can be gorgeous. Is the process for growing it out difficult at first? It definitely can be. Wavy hair will normally 'fall' relatively early on into the growing process, whereas curly hair will initially grow upwards, then, after a while, will become heavy enough to 'fall' and continue growing downwards. I know this because I have corkscrew curls. At first, I had to deal with an afro. But you know what? I sucked it up, learnt how to deal with my hair properly, and now it grows downwards. It took about a year, but I'm so glad I didn't give up, and despite the difficulty with management curly hair can present, I'm not jealous of people with straight hair one bit on my good hair days. You know many girls would kill for thicker, curlier hair? We always seem to want what we don't have, without realising the potential in what we already possess.
Straightening wavy or curly hair damages it. If you want to straighten it, that's your choice, but if you do it too often you will likely regret it once your hair gets longer because you will have a lot of damaged hair to deal with. What you need to do is keep your ends from being dry, since curly hair tends to be a lot drier than straight hair, and you need to learn how often to shampoo and condition your hair; straight hair can be shampooed as often as each day, but this will usually be a frizz-making disaster for curls. Do what you want with your hair, but don't assume you must straighten it or that thick hair cannot be feminine; that is an absurd, if not offensive, statement I have heard far too many times and that I myself had to overcome in order to come to love my own hair.
Also, you look like you have a lot of potential, honestly, especially when you put on that wig. Give HRT and your hair time, and you will likely turn out just fine. You're in a much more privileged starting point than some people.
