Quote from: Bleeps and Bloops on May 02, 2015, 05:21:59 PM
Thank you, but I didn't mean to make any kind of statement about any hair type, just that I thought my hair was particularly difficult to deal with. It's not curly really on top it's just the sides and at the back where it curls up and is really determined to stay that way. Maybe it could change with some growth but idk. I'm definitely going to try based on what other people are saying in this thread.
I understand your fears. I apologise if I sounded angry--I've just seen too many people be told that their hair is 'bad,' when their natural hair, with some time and care, can be utterly beautiful. And it sounds like you have wavy hair. Wavy hair will eventually fall and grow downwards once the follicles grow long enough. If you grow out your hair for a few months, you should begin to notice this, even though the initial stages will involve an afro. Wavy/curly hair will always grow up for a little before falling downwards under the weight; straight hair just gets there a bit faster. The advantage of hair like ours, though, is that you usually gain some volume because of this kind of growth pattern.
My advice would be to grow out your hair for half a year to a year--hair takes time. If you want to try using your natural hair, avoid straightening it too much and just try taking care of it--keep the ends of your hair oiled, brush/comb it carefully (I finger-comb rather than using a comb, but many people with wavier hair swear by wide-tooth combs because those allow you to be a bit gentler with your hair, and hair like ours is often more prone to damage if you aren't careful). Soon, you will be able to tuck the hair in your face behind your ears, and not long after that, form a short partial ponytail. You can use many methods to keep your hair neat while it's getting longer--use a headband/headscarf, wear caps or hats that aren't too tight, gel it back, etc.
I'm only focusing on hair because you mentioned it, by the way--I just want to reiterate that I think you'll turn out just fine facially speaking as you transition. You don't look excessively masculine or anything like that, and so I think you have a good canvas for HRT to work with. Just give it time, and I think you'll turn out fine.
