Susan's Place Logo

News:

Based on internal web log processing I show 3,417,511 Users made 5,324,115 Visits Accounting for 199,729,420 pageviews and 8.954.49 TB of data transfer for 2017, all on a little over $2,000 per month.

Help support this website by Donating or Subscribing! (Updated)

Main Menu

David James Brown 29/12/58 - 09/05/15

Started by Phoenix_2812, May 10, 2015, 05:08:15 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Phoenix_2812

I got a text from one of my uncles a short while ago to tell me that my father passed away last night. He had a short battle with cancer and died at home aged 56.

I was due to go and see him again tomorrow with my sister, so not sure what happens next.

Chris

P.S. Can I please ask you not to post messages with "R.I.P." in them, I really don't like it when people post that on forums and other sites on the internet. Thank you.
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." -Helen Keller
  •  

LordKAT

  •  

kittenpower

Sorry for your loss, God bless him, you, and your family. 
  •  

Mariah

Sorry for your loss of your father. Hugs
Mariah
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask me.
[email]mariahsusans.orgstaff@yahoo.com[/email]
I am also spouse of a transgender person.
Retired News Administrator
Retired (S) Global Moderator
  •  

Devlyn

Big hug. I'm really sorry, Chris. I know he fought well and you have had your own battles lately too. Sending warm thoughts to you and your family.

Hugs, Devlyn
  •  

stephaniec

  •  

Phoenix_2812

Thank you all for your replies.

I've had problems with the way I'm dealing with his passing. I almost cried when I last saw him on Friday of the week just gone, but it didn't want to know. Then when I got the text message from my uncle (my dad's brother) telling me that my dad had passed away, I more or less felt nothing, even though I really loved him as a son. I've been feeling sad but empty for the last week or so. I can't quite figure it out and it's starting to annoy me because I know the saddness and grief is there, but it just isn't coming out. Whenever my sister, my uncle or my dad's friend asked me how I felt, I could only manage to say I was sad when deep down inside I feel so much more.

WTF?! >:(

Chris
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." -Helen Keller
  •  

katrinaw

Sympathies Chris at such a sad time for you and your family, its always tough and full of "what if's" at such times.

L Katy
Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
Journey recommenced Sept 2015  :eusa_clap:... planning FT 2016  :eusa_pray:

Randomly changing 'Katy PIC's'

Live life, embrace life and love life xxx
  •  

Devlyn

Quote from: Phoenix_2812 on May 11, 2015, 04:50:02 AM
Thank you all for your replies.

I've had problems with the way I'm dealing with his passing. I almost cried when I last saw him on Friday of the week just gone, but it didn't want to know. Then when I got the text message from my uncle (my dad's brother) telling me that my dad had passed away, I more or less felt nothing, even though I really loved him as a son. I've been feeling sad but empty for the last week or so. I can't quite figure it out and it's starting to annoy me because I know the saddness and grief is there, but it just isn't coming out. Whenever my sister, my uncle or my dad's friend asked me how I felt, I could only manage to say I was sad when deep down inside I feel so much more.

WTF?! >:(

Chris

Chris, we all grieve on a different schedule in different ways. I didn't cry much when my mother died. I'm dealing with guilt over "not feeling bad enough" 

Don't do that to yourself. You knew his health was failing, under these circumstances we start letting go. In a sense, we've already said goodbye before they're gone. Your mind and your heart will guide you through your grief, it will come naturally and you may experience grief differently some other time. The important thing is, whatever you're feeling is OK. It's your life, your loss, and you get through it your way. Always here if you want to talk.

Hugs, Devlyn
  •