It may be different for each person but...

Do you think it's common for a transsexual to find (temporary?) relief wearing the "other gender's" clothes. For example as an mtf transgender I find it relaxing/ nice/ etc... to wear women's clothes in public (especially those meant for younger people).

Currently I'm wearing only girl skinny jeans but thinking of trying other "androgynous" apparel (if they fit me well that is).
Just wearing them at home is "yeah, so what". I prefer to wear female apparel when presenting as male (currently 100% of time) out. I could say I like getting over the "taboo" of wearing women's clothes.

I still hate my male parts and don't want to look at them. I've read that "true transsexuals" don't really care about "sexy clothing" and it's more of "I have to do it" thing. Inside me for a good percentage of the time I feel female (until I look at a mirror that is).

For the twenty odd years between the teen me who almost accepted herself and the curent me who has accepted herself little bits of femininty were the only things that kept me even remotely sane. I always had some things mixed in with the men's stuff. Sometimes I knew it was there, but if I let myself know too consciously I would have to purge the item eventually. I simply couldn't handle the truth about me some of the times and on other occasions the purge was because I was starting to remember who I was. I had to throw myself away a lot. The clothing items were never anything sexy or brightly colored. Just women's workwear, pants, thermals, gloves and some hats. Sometimes all I knew was that this pair of grey gloves feels "right" and the other ones feel "wrong".

Though my experience is limited, I don't know of any (mostly older) MTF TG who didn't. I relied on it for decades to get by. Even just that once a month total escape for the day sufficed.

For several years I had the luxury of being able to live part time as female. For the past 2 years now I cannot. My only time to feel completely genuine and presenting as female in public is limited to my monthly outing to my support group meeting. Winter time was more flexible with being able to wear a bra to keeps the girls under control.

Hopefully my wife and I will be able to escape this backwoods "Village" to live in an area where I can once again go part time and maybe even full, if circumstances allow it.

Whilst I would dispute the concept of "true trans" I would say that I don't feel like I am cross dressing when I wear female clothes - I am just dressing, but I do feel that I am cross dressing when I present as male.

Quote from: kelly_1979 on May 16, 2015, 03:06:04 PM
I still hate my male parts and don't want to look at them. I've read that "true transsexuals" don't really care about "sexy clothing" and it's more of "I have to do it" thing.

Where do people get these ideas?

Many women like wearing sexy clothing. Many don't. The type of clothing you like doesn't have anything do to with how genuine your gender experience is. True of both cis and trans women.

Quote from: Ms Grace on May 16, 2015, 06:03:03 PM
Whilst I would dispute the concept of "true trans" I would say that I don't feel like I am cross dressing when I wear female clothes - I am just dressing, but I do feel that I am cross dressing when I present as male.

I agree. I am facing the unfortunate possibility of not being able to go on HRT. But I will always consider myself "trans" since I already do feel much the same as Ms Grace when I am at work. (even though on any given day, I am wearing panties) when I get home I completely shed the male attributes (often enjoying a flowery bath)
If HRT is not possible, I will not go out as Marly unless/until I am quite passable.
As I told someone once, "If I can't sell it, I ain't gonna advertise it"

Just to clarify: I used the word "crossdressing" as only a term. I don't feel I'm really "cross dressing" when I'm wearing (at least certain) female clothing. Currently I don't feel I'm crossdressing when I'm wearing male clothes either.