I can speak with authority since I have studied sexual dimorphism for years. It is NOT the neo-vagina what gets you clocked. Let me reiterate it: It is NOT the neovagina that gets people clocked. Unless, it is butchery, the ones I have seen and the one I have work perfectly fine. Think about it: imagine a truck driver with a perfect neo-vagina. What do you think it is going to clock the truck driver?
There are lots of urban myths about neovaginas. I can orgasm. I was told I would never be able to orgasm, but I can, and it is very intense. It is not psychological. It is physical.
I also get wet. However, if someone suspects about me, it is NEVER the vagina and it is NEVER the hands, as people think. Look, do you really believe that if you put manly hands on a genetic female she will be mistaken for a man? They might say she has manly hands, but she will still be a female. The clocking happens for other factors that have to do with voice and bone structure. Not simply being thin and small, but the shape of the cranium, the facial bones, are different. SOme are lucky to be able to get rid of masculine traits with FFS. SOme, no matter how many rounds of FFS they have, have a masculine, long skull.
However, there is a certain sadistic component in people, especially guys, who want trans people to think that yes, you can tell by the vagina. For a typical, average Joe, the thought of a vagina that used to be a penis is revolting. That is the way it is. The scariest thing for an average Joe is not to be able to tell.