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How difficult or easy has your transition been

Started by stephaniec, June 19, 2015, 11:15:02 AM

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How has your path to transitioning been

surprisingly extreme easy
10 (47.6%)
ups and downs like everyday life
2 (9.5%)
It's been alright, I just wish it was easier
2 (9.5%)
I'm finding alot of issues that are challenging to resolve
2 (9.5%)
manageable , but some issues are extremely difficult to deal with.
2 (9.5%)
sometimes unbearable , but the only way is forward
1 (4.8%)
earlier in life was difficult , but now pretty easy.
1 (4.8%)
less than extremely easy, not quite just ups and downs
1 (4.8%)

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stephaniec

June 19, 2015, 11:15:02 AM
Well, if I take into account my whole life and the length of time it took to get where I am , it's kind of high on the scale of difficulty. The thing that has made it a lot easier for me since the decision to transition was made is my age and finances . I'm don't have money , but I can survive without too much worry and I only have myself to be responsible for. The struggle to get to this point has been the main cause of grief.
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Rejennyrated

#1
June 19, 2015, 11:19:28 AM
I suspect I should admit that my answer of surprisingly easy may in part derive from the fact that its well over thirty years in the past, and so any little local diffculties have long since faded from my memory. Either way it certainly wasn't any more diffcult than any other part of life.
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stephaniec

#2
June 19, 2015, 11:29:30 AM
My difficulty was just in the craziness of getting here and starting hormone even though I knew I wanted them when I was 18.
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suzifrommd

#3
June 19, 2015, 11:53:40 AM
Would be a complete cakewalk were it not for hair.

The only thing that has made my transition even slightly difficult is that I have too much hair where I don't want it and not enough where I want it.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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enigmaticrorschach

#4
June 19, 2015, 11:59:01 AM
manageable but very difficult. i live in a rural area so the only one that knows anything or can remotely help is my GP and it took some desperate situations to convince her that i did need help or i would end up dead
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Tessa James

#5
June 19, 2015, 12:27:56 PM
Getting here was a struggle but being here is 100% percent better that my fears allowed me to imagine.

The personal freedom and liberty of transition are a tonic and an amazingly seductive elixir for me.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Jacqueline

#6
June 19, 2015, 12:49:19 PM
I am really too early to comment but that won't stop me ;).

I can say it was a very hard short period of time so far. I suspect that challenges will continue. I hope more of them become external(not that I want trouble from others, it was just hard to wrap my head around some of my self discoveries). Once embraced, things seem to get easier till the next issue shows up.

However, seeing so many of you who have made your journey's a while ago. We as new people see your posts and it is encouraging and inspiring. It doesn't make tough times go away. However, it makes it seem doable. In addition, because of the earlier transitions of sisters, it makes it easier for the rest of us to stand on the shoulders of giants.

With gratitude,

Joanna
1st Therapy: February 2015
First Endo visit & HRT StartJanuary 29, 2016
Jacqueline from Joanna July 18, 2017
Full Time June 1, 2018
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Kellam

#7
June 19, 2015, 12:58:56 PM
It took me twenty years from when I first knew I needed to transition to me being able to fully accept who I am and begin it. In those intervening years was a lot of unbearable struggle. Now that I have started transtion though everything seems easier. Even the damage T did to my body, baldness included, is bearable now that I can see it slowly but surely reversing. This part of my life feels like a great healing period, all the old wounds are fading. It did seem unbearable but that inexorable forward motion of life has brought change forth again!
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling
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stephaniec

#8
June 19, 2015, 01:08:10 PM
yes, the healing
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iKate

#9
June 19, 2015, 01:34:44 PM
Easier than I thought, actually. However there have been a number of challenges I've been through.

However I believe that I never would have gotten out of the closet had society not evolved to this degree. I was trying to hide myself for so long, I just couldn't anymore.
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stephaniec

#10
June 19, 2015, 01:40:12 PM
Quote from: iKate on June 19, 2015, 01:34:44 PM
Easier than I thought, actually. However there have been a number of challenges I've been through.

However I believe that I never would have gotten out of the closet had society not evolved to this degree. I was trying to hide myself for so long, I just couldn't anymore.
The hiding was the miserable thing for me.
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Sydney_NYC

#11
June 19, 2015, 01:40:23 PM
I was very surprised how easy it has been for me. Especially with my being 6'7" and not transitioning until I was 43. The hardest part was coming out, but the result of coming out was much more positive than I thought it would be.

The part I've hated the most in transitioning is electrolysis, but thankfully that is getting so much better now since my sessions are getting shorter and further apart :)
Sydney



Born - 1970
Came Out To Self/Wife - Sept-21-2013
Started therapy - Oct-15-2013
Laser and Electrolysis - Oct-24-2013
HRT - Dec-12-2013
Full time - Mar-15-2014
Name change  - June-23-2014
GCS - Nov-2-2017 (Dr Rachel Bluebond-Langner)

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jessical

#12
June 19, 2015, 01:51:07 PM
There needs to be a categories between extremely easy and it had ups and downs.  For me I would say it has been easy, easier than expected, with a few bumps in the road.  But extremely easy does not quite fit.
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Jill F

#13
June 19, 2015, 03:08:05 PM
It was simply the path of least resistance for me.  Not transitioning became untenable and life-threatening, and doing what came naturally was much easier.
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noleen111

#14
June 20, 2015, 02:41:47 AM
Mine has been surprising easy. My life was made easier by my best friend and roommate. She supported me and was very excited to help me become the woman I am today.

In the beginning, she thought I was a doll, She loved dressing me up in outfits. All different styles. I am glad she did, as in all those outfits, I found my style.

Without her, I might have struggled. She also guided me on how woman are in public.. e.g. sitting like lady or even when walking down stairs with a long dress, it easier to pull your dress up slightly to see your feet. She even thought me how to apply makeup and how walk in heels. She loves heels and I got my love of them from her.
Enjoying ride the hormones are giving me... finally becoming the woman I always knew I was
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Obfuskatie

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June 20, 2015, 02:48:36 AM

Quote from: suzifrommd on June 19, 2015, 11:53:40 AM
Would be a complete cakewalk were it not for hair.

The only thing that has made my transition even slightly difficult is that I have too much hair where I don't want it and not enough where I want it.
This! Social anxiety would be a lot easier to deal with if I was confident with my hairdo. And I've always been squicked out by my body hair, so hair removal has been a huge priority as well. I guess we can take solace in that nearly all women wish their hair was different than it is, otherwise salons, curlers and straighteners wouldn't be as popular.


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Nicole

#16
June 20, 2015, 03:32:30 AM
Mine was made very easy thanks to the most wonderful mother in the world, a move not long after coming out and a family that was told what was happening and the law set down.

I also had spare money, I was young and my mother & I planned everything.
Yes! I'm single
And you'll have to be pretty f'ing amazing to change that
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Northern Jane

#17
June 20, 2015, 04:41:07 AM
It was an awfully long time ago and medical help was VERY difficult to find but "transition" was incredibly easy, like flipping a switch. I never 'passed' as male very well so "transition" was simply a matter of not trying any more. As a girl, everything came easily and naturally and acceptance as a girl was 100%.
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DanielleA

#18
June 20, 2015, 06:44:55 AM
My transition has been really easy. The hardest part so far was getting family onside. It has been a huge emotional rollercoaster but everytime I have gone to reach the stars it has all worked out.
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