Hello,

I've never been on a forum like this before and I'm sorry if anything I say is confusing...I guess I'm just looking for some advice.

My name is Jordan(birth name) and I was born female and lately I've been feeling/wishing I was male...I have felt like this before many times before but now the feeling is a lot stronger. I dress in male clothing but I do not go by male pronouns mostly because I haven't told anyone how I am feeling.

I'm also kinda scared to talk to my family because who knows if they will approve or support me or even begin to understand how I'm feeling inside.

Anyone have any advice at all?
Thanks.

Hey Jordan

Welcome to Susan's    Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

It certainly sounds like you are having some personal conflicts around your gender identity but no one can decide if you are transgender except yourself. Coming to this forum can certainly be a useful way to get information and read other people's stories. If you are able to talk to a counsellor or gender therapist about your feelings on the matter it might be possible to get a clearer picture. Sometimes talking to family, especially if they are likely to be unsupportive, might not be the best first step. If you need their help to get to see a therapist though maybe you could just tell them that you have been feeling depressed and need to talk to someone, rather than giving them the bigger picture, at least not until you have a clearer idea of your feelings and a possible way forward.

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Hi jordan, yes you are at the right place.  Most of the group is sleeping, but keep checking back.
To answer your questions, these feelings are normal and nothing wrong with them.  Its hard to give you a good diagnostic eval online.  Are you able to talk to a therapist, preferably a transgender therapist? They will help you alot if you choose this path. 
You are not alone.  Just give it some time and hopefully the group will respond in the morning. 
Are your parents accepting of the lgbt lifestyle?  One thing is that someday you need to tell them and I hope they are great parents for you;)  if not, give them some time, they should come around.  If not you are always welcome into our group:)  you are always welcome her anyway..
First thing you may need to think about, but you have your whole life to decide is what you want your gender and sexual preference to be.  Maybe a name change?  Although I know some male jordans too!    You can always change them, but it helps others to figure your goals.
Im going back to sleep, I hope you have a good life jordan, it gets better now that you admit this is real;)  nighty night, j

Hi Jordan! I just wanted to say that you are not alone I to just joined today and am struggling with confusion and fear about the way I am feeling. If you are interested  I have a link that has a list of gender therapist by state. It says on there that you should be very careful about the therapist you go to since some of them who have little experience in this particular area can actually cause a whole lot of damage. Especially at this early of a stage in the process I think. It also said it can be damaging because many of them could be biased and try to repress are true selves even more so this site has specific therapist are unbiased and have experience in cases as special as hours Also don't be to shy the people here are amazingly welcoming and kind!

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Hi Jordan! I just wanted to say that you are not alone I to just joined today and am struggling with confusion and fear about the way I am feeling. If you are interested  I have a link that has a list of gender therapist by state. It says on there that you should be very careful about the therapist you go to since some of them who have little experience in this particular area can actually cause a whole lot of damage. Especially at this early of a stage in the process I think. It also said it can be damaging because many of them could be biased and try to repress are true selves even more so this site has specific therapist are unbiased and have experience in cases as special as hours Also don't be to shy the people here are amazingly welcoming and kind!

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Hi Jordan, welcome to Susan's. A gender therapist would be a good next step I think. The fact that things are stronger this time around is good sign that it's time to look into it. Your among friends and now and we have all been there. Lets face it families are tricky to say the least. If you decided that you are and that transitioning is for you, then issue of telling family starts become front and center. There are different ways to tell them and families tend to all react differently. My family was a mixed bag of responses and yet they knew this was coming. There are many ways to communicate it with them from sitting down to talking to them to writing letters. The key is when you decide that it's something you need to and you tell them do understand that it takes them time just like it takes us time to come to terms with this. Initial reactions can and do change. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good Luck and Hugs
Mariah

Welcome to Susan's Place. Don't worry about expressing your self because we were all there once. Enough of the message got through so we understand your issues and the best path is for you to start exploring your feelings. Therapy is something you should start as soon as possible and while you are waiting feel free to explore the site and ask question.  Being around others like you is a great way to break down the emotional barriers and allow you to find your true self. We assume you know little or nothing about yourself and we expect the most basic questions. We feel you belong here but in the end you will be the one who decides what you want to do with your life.