Anastasia,
Hi and welcome here to Susan's Place.
I'm Leah's Significant Other. It is a shock for us at first to find out these kind of things about our Life's Partner. I can say from experience that it is helpful to have a place to get the education and then also a place where like minded people share their experiences from both sides of the issues. Maybe you could point your wife here to share with other SO's. It could be helpful. you can find my email address in my prifile if she would rather go that way. Or she could meet me in the SO's CHat I'll be hanging out there from time to time as that room's operator, which really means I just like to share with people, privately or in SOs group what ever suites her.
What ever you do communicate, communicate, communicate, that is the key to making it through the rough spots in any relationship.
Smiles
Peggiann