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Tired of boundaries

Started by armanddelange12, July 07, 2015, 12:08:38 PM

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armanddelange12

I want to have freedom from my parents. They are too old fashioned and they don't understand what I'm going through. I am not allowed to do anything remotely "girly". How do I go about getting freedom. I also have to say I'm a diabetic which means i should take insulin which ties me even more to the old folks. And i also work for my father. Any advice from you gals...?

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Dena

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You may not like my advice but as long as I lived under my parents roof, I lived by their rules. Once i was on my own, I could make my rules. I was never very wild so I didn't have problems with the rules my parents had and once I was on my own I still live much like I would with my parents.

As you work for your father, I suspect you father will not allow you to transition on the job so it look like for full freedom you are going to need another job.

As for the fact you are diabetic, that shouldn't stop you from living by you self as long as it's well controlled. If it's not you may want to consider a roommate which would also reduce your living expenses.

The last option if you are transexual, you might use the link to help change their mind.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism
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armanddelange12

Thank you

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Laura_7

Here are some resources that could help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190486.msg1697083.html#msg1697083

Well I cannot tell you what to do... its up to you...
if you are dependent you might consider...

just take the time you need...

hugs
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suzifrommd

I suggest trying to educate your parents. Make sure they know:
* Being transgender is serious. Gender dysphoria can literally become unbearable. Depression and anxiety are common among those who suffer from it.
* It typically won't go away on its own and it can't be "cured".
* It isn't something you chose.

Try to get them to understand that by not letting you be yourself, they are abusing you, the same as if they denied you your insulin or other medicine you needed to live healthily.

You may need to say these things multiple times - sometimes it takes a while for something to sink in.

Can't guarantee it will work, but it's worth a try.

Hugs, armanddelange12. It's awful when people who are given your care refuse to acknowledge your identity. Give yourself credit for living in an a difficult situation.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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armanddelange12

Thank you so so much Suzifrommd! Appreciate your help and support

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