Hi everybody, I've been on hormones for about a month (which is really awesome) and the most prominent change I've noticed (other than nipple pain) has been a growing desire to have sex as a girl, my perferred gender. Its gotten to the point where I can't be satisfied sexually anymore as a boy. Does anyone have any advice on how to get through this?, it often makes me very sad/depressed.

Hallô Squirrel!

You can try masturbating by rubbing your penis like a clit. One thing that I like to do is to, is to dress up real sexy. I wear a stripper thong to keep my boy parts tucked underneath, so they're in proximity to where my girl parts will be. Then I lay a pillow on my bed, straddle the pillow, and pretend I'm riding a cute boy. Then I just go with it, taking off layers bit-by-bit. I like to hump the pillow, touch my breasts, and -- oh boy, I'm getting myself worked up! I'd better stop! 

Are you on antiandrogens (eg spiro) yet? Lower testosterone helped me a lot.

Quote from: AnonyMs on July 06, 2015, 01:14:56 PM
Are you on antiandrogens (eg spiro) yet? Lower testosterone helped me a lot.

I am on those, but they dont seem to have helped me much, which i am extremely sad about :/

Use toys! They helped me out when I was having a hard time satisfying myself. Or just experiment with other people. It's not hard to find someone if you are just looking for sex especially if guys are your thing

Listen to Amber ^^ she is wise

Quote from: chloeD33 on July 06, 2015, 04:45:24 PM
Listen to Amber ^^ she is wise

hitachi magic wand = problem solved.

Serena

The world is your  oyster 

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I have both the magic wand and the superior body wand. The biggest difference is that the later is completely adjustable where as the first only has two settings. It helps, but its still frustrating. I'm at 7 months and my sex drive is crazy high. I don't think of it as much as I used to, but once I get in the right frame of mind its just as bad as pre-HRT. The odd thing was for the first few months it was greatly reduced.

I prefer anal toys over vibes myself. Vibes don't do much for me. I guess it's to each their own.

When I first started HRT I found I couldn't reach my big O for roughly six months, every time I came close to the O it did a runner on me. I think it was because it was quite different from the O I'd lived with for decades and my brain was so shocked that it jolted me out of the zone.
Once I passed that hurdle it became easy, trust me.

If you're not comfortable with toys then try this method, I wear contouring underwear which keeps everything in place and prevents me from feeling what I have down there. I use both hands to jiggle the tip through the fabric and have reached O in less than 5 min that way.
Its hard to describe the motion I use so have fun experimenting with different pressure/direction etc.

Also, don't let it stress you as that's counter productive

I'm FTM, but I wanted to chime in and mention that masturbation had changed for me since my gender dysphoria.  I had to think of my clit as a penis and it made all of the difference.  I agree with what Mugwort said, that is what I do, but in reverse.

Alexander