So I recently came out to my dad over phone when he started questioning me about my Facebook profile, where I had my pronouns set to "She/her", and I told him that I was transgender and after a little bit of explaining the differences between bisexuality and ->-bleeped-<- he told me that he didn't want me to do the surgery because he knew a friend that died from the surgery. He's a religious man (i won't lie, i was kind of afraid to come out to him because of that) and he said that it had nothing to do with the Bible or God or anything like that, but because of the "plumbing" down there, that "once you start messing with the plumbing, it starts messing with the body". I don't know, I'm dealing with a lot of crap right now and I find it hard to just find out what I want to push through with and what I don't want to go through with.

This sort of comment is common from the misinformed. I sort of feel for you Dad, he loves you and is worried, but misinformed.

Surgery is not for everyone and not needed for may trans sexual women, it is a misconception that every woman wants or needs it. That said there are thousands of trans sexual women who have had surgery, the side effects are, from the good surgeons, minimal on general health. Yes there are issues for some women about the surgery, but not general health.

Remember men can be funny about female genitals! It is an area of mystique and horror for some men.