I have come out as ftm to my family in the past couple months and they have been very supportive. I am in a weird place where I really feel no connection to my birth name since it is so feminine and it just doesn't feel at all like my name even though it is legally but then I still don't feel like I have a new name that really feels like mine yet so I kinda feel like no one at the moment. It just feels weird to not have a name I strongly associate with. It is holding me back in finding a new job and overall getting more social again because I just don't feel confident with a new name. I've tried a few out and it just feels weird. Maybe I need to give it time. I have so far chosen all male names and part of what feels weird is that I know that my identity is male but right now I just don't see that when I look in the mirror so it makes me feel self conscious to use a very masculine name and kinda feels weird when people call me it. I am starting to like the idea of a neutral name. I also am having trouble with the concept of naming myself. I asked my parents what they would have named me if I was a boy and they didn't really have a name they really liked for a boy. The ones they were thinking of were just ones I couldn't see using except maybe the name Neil. But again I am not feeling a little better with the idea of a neutral name. I like one that won't box me in to either gender. I also want a name that is not supper common but that I will still be taken seriously with. But then again I am a street performer and in the entertainment field so it probably wouldn't hurt my career to have a weird name since I've always sorta planned on doing my own thing. It is just so hard for me to pick one. Does anyone have any suggestions for me on how to feel confident in a name and find the right one? Or any suggestions of good neutral names? Or even good male names. I like the idea of a neutral name but have trouble finding ones I like the sound of.

Here are some I have been thinking of;
-Carter (I have always really liked this but now I see it is really common for babies and I'm not sure if it would be a bad idea to take it because it might seem trendy)
-Quincy
-Sawyer
-Dallas (Everyone seems to think this is too texas but I have an association with it from someone I looked up to as a kid, still don't want everyone to just think of texas)
-Phoenix (not sure if this would be too different or out there. I just want my extended family to take me seriously when I tell them so I'm not sure if a name like this would affect that. I like that it symbolizes rebirth)
-Zay (I'm not even sure if this is a name but it's kinda cool)
-Keegan
-Harley
-Also thought of using the initials CJ or JJ
-Beck

I do like a few male names like; Isaiah, Forrest, Everett, River. I am open to male names if it feels right.

I like the idea of having a neutral name but I'm struggling to find one that really fits. Anyways, thanks if you read all of this. I'm sure people ask things like this all the time but I have just been so indecisive about this and having trouble committing to a name. Also, I just hate the idea of having to insist on everyone getting used to calling me something different. It just feels so awkward but necessary.

you seem to have a lot more names on your table, so like you have been doing get your family involved,

but do it like this,

If possible gender flip your current name (i didnt like that idea but....) this name becomes number 1
IF you cant flip you current name ask a friend to pick a name.


choose 11 more names, number then 2 thorugh 12 (no specific order)

give your mother one D6 (six sided die')
give your father another D6

Ask them to roll the dice. Add the results together That is your name, If you dont like this result go with Name 1

Have you considered asking your parents what your name would have been if you had been AMAB?

When I picked my new name I just scrambled the letters. Ops now you know my old name 
I have an additional name to consider and that is the name of a man I worked with and my mothers name "Lea"

Phoenix, Good luck with the name search. The only advice from this old fogey is don't get to far out there. Even in the entertainment field the power and money is controlled by people that are more conservative than they may care to admit. Really unusual names seam to only work for those with an embedded history in the business. Just my opinion F.W.I.W.

Shout out to Dena , your name used to be Edna ? 

A nice, neutral name would also be Korey or Corey or some other spelling.  I want to name my daughter Korinne when she's born (in a few weeks!), but my wife is still on the fence about it.  We could call her Kory for short.

Quote from: lostcharlie on July 25, 2015, 03:02:36 PMShout out to Dena , your name used to be Edna ? 

No silly, it was Ande, duh....

Thanks for the posts. I just decided to go with a common name from the year I was born. Decided I just want a male name too. I'm a eccentric enough person so I don't really need a weird name to make me stand out anymore than I already do. I think it will be easier to just give people a name that they won't be surprised by or question and I like the sound of what I picked and always have.