I'm single and recently started talking to a guy who identifies as gay but knows I'm trans and is just fine with It on a friendship level. We're separated by 2 hrs drive and he's the only one with a car at this point in time. He visited me and ended up spending the night and we had some PG cuddling where neither of us were overtly sexual but you could cut the tension with a knife. Both of us enjoyed it, and he's continued to talk to me.
Our conversations have also leaned to the idea of something more than friendship. Both of us move slow, but we've both been honest in our intentions - we'd like to see where this goes.

How do I have the sex talk with him? I want to explain my body, my comfort zone, and I want to know if he's been tested recently. I also want him to be comfortable asking me questions that are important to him.

Well imo you might tell him you like him... talk a bit about what you like... your comfort zones etc... maybe talk about a hot movie scene... where you liked the feeling... and that you could imagine the two of you there...

its a completely natural subject, and if you have feelings for each other there is no need for awkwardness... I'd say just be yourself... show some emotions, ask some questions, and all should be ok...


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I'd consider being a bit direct and expressing interest in something more before you jump to the sex talk. If he's receptive, then ask what his understanding is of your body and comfort zones. Then you have a chance where he can ask questions, admit that he's confused, and it gives you an opportunity to correct any incorrect assumptions and educate him on things he doesn't know about.

There's really no delicate way to ask if someone has been tested recently. Just kind of have to go for it.

I'm definitely going to feel it out before just jumping into it. We've both discussed our interest in sex and we both have a general time line of how long it'll take for ourselves to move toward sex or even just making out (quite a while for him, which is fine with me). I don't see it happening soon, but I'd like to know if I've got a shot of seeing him naked or not lol

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