Today while waiting at a bus stop a guy in his car wolf whistled at me I was like wth lol

 


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looks like your going to have to start getting use to it.

I get the middle aged guys walking with their wives smiling and staring while their wife is looking in the opposite direction.

I get hit on by the weirdest people sometimes. The other night it was the guy at the drive thru. Week before it was an old guy at the checkout line.

And let's not forget social media, where I would get 2-3 friend requests per day from random men. I had to restrict my list because of that.

Got beeped at while crossing the road (legally!) the other day. Just ignored them...

Quote from: iKate on August 22, 2015, 05:48:00 PM
I get hit on by the weirdest people sometimes. The other night it was the guy at the drive thru. Week before it was an old guy at the checkout line.

And let's not forget social media, where I would get 2-3 friend requests per day from random men. I had to restrict my list because of that.

I know what you mean got video called 10 times yesterday 😔

I got whistled at while I was at my mailbox awhile back.   Honestly it didn't even register in my consciousness until a few minutes later, then I was like  "Wait. .....  Did that guy just. ........."

Yeah, I'm oblivious   

You do get used to it, but it can be annoying at times. Last night I was hit on by the gas station attendant. (In NJ, by law they pump your gas), but at least he backed off when I told him I was married. (I guess he didn't notice my ring.) Then my wife and I were walked down to the local convenient store a few block from our house. I had been working out so I was wearing yoga pants and top with my hair in a pony tail. This guy walking on the sidewalk across the street was staring at me and talking to himself a little too loudly to the tune of "Yeah, look at that woman, I gotta get some of that..." Yeah nothing like being objectified.

Are we all delusional though? I feel like I am stuck wondering is it a straight man who sees me as passable that's hitting/whistling at me, or is it a ->-bleeped-<- who knows I'm trans? Seriously though, a girl can drive herself nuts trying to figure this out!!

I don't mind it at all if someone wolfwistles me or whatever. Someone thinks I am hot and that is okay regardless of if they are a ->-bleeped-<- or not. It is the people that come back and have another go that makes me uncomfortable and the ones that don't let it go after you show disinterest in them. Everyone else is fair game to me

I know lots of us might find it validating on some level but to be quite honest I absolutely totally detest cat calling and dont tolerate it.It's sexist and demeaning and has to stop. Thankfully it's not really a part of the male psyche here in NZ.

Having guys looking at me all the time makes me really self conscious. I've only been cat-called a few times and no one has actually approached me. It always makes me feel like I've been clocked. Everybody that I've asked says that I pass well, but I think that people many times choose to be nice more often than honest. I guess time will tell.

Quote from: AbbyDS74 on August 23, 2015, 09:29:28 PM
Having guys looking at me all the time makes me really self conscious. I've only been cat-called a few times and no one has actually approached me. It always makes me feel like I've been clocked. Everybody that I've asked says that I pass well, but I think that people many times choose to be nice more often than honest. I guess time will tell.

yeah this is what I'm thinking

Quote from: hvmatt on August 23, 2015, 02:17:54 AM
I know lots of us might find it validating on some level but to be quite honest I absolutely totally detest cat calling and dont tolerate it.It's sexist and demeaning and has to stop. Thankfully it's not really a part of the male psyche here in NZ.

Well all due respect, but I don't believe it's sexist or demeaning, primal perhaps but that shouldn't be considered bad unless the whistle is followed by offensive remarks, and I mean real offensive remarks, not what we might believe or construe as offensive due to our "mental guard dog being constantly on watch for clocking and anti-LGBT-ism ( I know, not a word)" but I think we all do it to a degree. From men to women to gay to trans I've seen every "label" do it. And I honestly believe that 90% of them did it because they saw someone at a distance they found attractive enough that they really wanted to get their attention. As for the remaining 10% (probably a**holes, I can neither defend or speak for them. Personally I say enjoy the whistles and ignore the whistles with bs attached to them.

Actually come to think of it that's how I met my oldest child's mother. She whistled for me after I'd walked my ferret past her house, I'd gotten about 6 or 7 houses down when I heard her. I turned around and went back cause nobody else was in my direction so I figured she could only be whistling at me. When I got back to her she said she wanted to see my ferret cause she loved animals of all kinds, yeah ok but I'll bite. We exchanged numbers and later when she called she disclosed that she just whistled to get my attention and it worked, that she didn't really give a damn about the ferret at the time even though she did actually like animals.

Yenneffer, if your avatar picture is you, then you better start expecting a whole lot more of that sort of reaction, like it or not. I'm not condoning men who objectify women but your avatar pic is of a pretty young lady who's going to attract attention.

Yeah, this happens, More then I exspected.

Was walking home from work, And I swear every 7 cars, Beep, Beep, Honk. urg. And the only thing I can think about is, would they still off beeped if they got a closer look and or knew more about me. Thats what gets me the most though.
The beeping before they know anything about me, save it be how I look.

Quote from: hvmatt on August 23, 2015, 02:17:54 AM
I know lots of us might find it validating on some level but to be quite honest I absolutely totally detest cat calling and dont tolerate it.It's sexist and demeaning and has to stop. Thankfully it's not really a part of the male psyche here in NZ.

Yup. sexual aggression. yuck.

ps, I'm a kiwi too