Dont read if you dont want to hear details.... but who can stop now, right?

Sorry, its pretty frank...Ive searched the web for answers and come up empty
So I want to talk a moment about my, ummm.... private parts, yeah... thats it.
I have what I would refer to as both, sort of...
If and when I get an erection, I have 6 inches and fairly large girth, I also have fairly large testicles (which I despise)
but erections are rare lately, normally my penis is shrunken, mostly hidden and I have a "cavity".... Im leary to call it anything else yet. I can insert a fairly large "interphalactic device" maybe 4 inches worth of depth. With fingers I can also feel "squeezing" within this cavity. My testicles also "draw up" inside me and I could nearly pass as female genitals. Its been a couple months since I have masturbated as a "male".... Im trying to train myself to not have erections and I think its working.
I should also mention that I have been drinking soy milk for a little more than a month, my penis is smaller and less obtrusive since starting it. And orgasmic playtime is way different, what used to take me a couple minutes now has turned into 25-30 minutes and I am able to have more than one orgasm during this time
Now, I must say that I am overweight, but I have lost 40-50 pounds recently and it has not lessened the "vag" in any way. I dont think its just cuz Im fat, and a few years ago I lost a 100 and it was still the same then.
I may also have had some form of intersex surgery as a child, but I have not gotten records to confirm or deny this.
I know shortly after birth I had some sort of "problem" with my penis/circumcision... which require a few doctor visits to fix it. Of course this was in 1968 and my parents know nothing. When I was 12 I had to go to cleveland clinic for a major operation, they claim it was a renal bypass... did I have "girl parts" removed? Again, parents act oblivious to anything being wrong, but they also seem weird when discussing it.
Looking at pics of me as a child, I look very girly. And I have always had a "hidden penis" which made locker rooms a bad situation
well if you made it this far, thanks for your time... Im just trying to see if anyone else is like me out there.