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A brand new bathroom fer lil' ol' me?

Started by HelenW, August 15, 2007, 05:00:53 PM

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Ember Lewis

There was a time long ago...when I was afraid to use the womens and afraid to use the mens. But seriously  on Spiro you soon realize you need to get over this fear. Now I can't imagine using anything other than the woman's washroom, I'm happy if you are about this separate bathroom thing. But personally that would make me mad it screams segregation and non acceptance. I think unisex bathrooms should be mandatory everywhere, but for an establishment to all of a sudden build one because they now have a Trans Person is crazy. Personally I consider myself a woman before anything and want to be treated as such.
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Ell

Quote from: Jessica G on December 12, 2007, 08:38:17 PM
There was a time long ago...when I was afraid to use the womens and afraid to use the mens. But seriously  on Spiro you soon realize you need to get over this fear. Now I can't imagine using anything other than the woman's washroom, I'm happy if you are about this separate bathroom thing. But personally that would make me mad it screams segregation and non acceptance. I think unisex bathrooms should be mandatory everywhere, but for an establishment to all of a sudden build one because they now have a Trans Person is crazy. Personally I consider myself a woman before anything and want to be treated as such.

i agree, that's what i was trying to say, as i was stumbling over the words. but anyway, what do you mean about being on Spiro? how is it related...?
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Wing Walker

I recommend that you read "Back Off!" by Martha Langelan.  It is a wonderful handbook about sexual and gender harassment, how to tell if it's happening, and what to do with it.

The separate but equal washroom is a manifestation of which you might be careful and observant.  No employer spends the $10,000 or so to install a new washroom for one person without having a desire to cashier that person out.

Read the book.  Be aware.  Locate a labor relations lawyer should you need one.

Wing Walker

Posted on: December 13, 2007, 01:41:41 AM
Quote from: tekla on December 11, 2007, 11:44:58 PM
The Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, among others said that, but that was a very different situation.   And a very different time and place.  Anyone can use the "family bathroom" or the "unisex" deal.  Nobody checks on the first, and the second is assumed.

All the company has to prove is 'reasonable accommodation' - otherwise they are pretty much off the hook.  Give a chance (not possible for most of the peeeps who work in third world conditions to make your fashions by the way - and that means that your wardrobe is made in the USA or Europe by union employers and that you are not buying stuff made in sweatshops so you can save fifty cents per panty? - and yes, all my clothing is made in the USA by union workers or like by American Apparel out of L.A. which gives its workers a decent wage then....  well, who are you to talk exactly????) to take a bathroom break, and given a bathroom to use, what's the problem.  Or are you really hung up on bathrooms and not the work itself?

Please correct me if I am in error, but 'reasonable accommodation' applies to persons covered by the Americans with Disabilities Act, does it not?  Is there any uniform law, ordinance, regulation, or ruling dealing with transsexual persons' need for workplace washrooms?  I am sorry, but I have yet to see that.

Wing Walker
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Ember Lewis

This is in answer to the Spiro ?....Spiro is a diuretic and that means pee pee time a lot :D and when you have to go it can get bad. 10min can mean the difference from I have to pee to I AM GOING TO PEE MY PANTS. Before HRT I tried to hold it till I got to a quiet restroom, busy ones made me nervous. Well that didn't work so well after HRT, If I have to go I have to go......I'm seeing my Dr. tomorrow I'm going to see If I can take Androcure instead.
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Wing Walker

Quote from: Ashley Michelle on December 13, 2007, 08:06:39 PM
Quote from: Jessica G on December 13, 2007, 08:04:19 PM
This is in answer to the Spiro ?....Spiro is a diuretic and that means pee pee time a lot :D

no kidding.  this getting up 5 times during the night is getting old.

wait.  maybe its just me getting old  :P

LOL w/you, Ashley!

I suppose that I'm lucky because spiro didn't work very well as a diuretic.  There are other diuretics a whole lot more effective, trust me!

Wing Walker, sometimes a-k-a Wing Runner!  LOL!!!
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Kate

Quote from: Renate on December 16, 2007, 09:45:06 PM
Our beloved HR (20 miles away) sent me a memo saying that name change did not imply a gender change,
that they would honor my court-ordered name change, but they wouldn't acknowledge me as other than male
without legal documentation.

Maybe try sending them a "Carry Letter" from your therapist, or even something more specific from her specifying that you're in transition and inevitably moving towards SRS, and "should be afforded all the rights and privileges of a female."

~Kate~
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