So, Ive been out to friends and family for about 6 months now. Been on Hormones for 3 months. I dont know why but Im very uncomfortable talking about y transition with anybody but my therapist...and online with people I dont know I real life.

Sucks because things are starting to happen due to the hormones that Id like to talk about. But every time I think about bringing it up I just get all freaked out. I think itd be easier if anybody ever asked me questions about it. But nobody has brought it up since I came out. Idk guess it feels weird for me to start a conversation about myself.

Anybody else go through this at all?

To clear up any confusion, I am completely psyched about the changes going on. Would just like to be comfortable talking about it with loved ones.

Big hug! Congratulations on your progress!  You're nervous because this is new. The advice for giving a speech or talk comes to mind: practice in the mirror. It sounds silly but it works because the more times you say it the easier it is.

Hugs, Devlyn

I kept things quiet sorta at first, now I find myself stopping before going into TMI detail with people. Heck I often use it for shock value or as a funny story about ways I have hurt my breasts. Or telling a friend when moving boxes "I am not getting any stronger" last wednesday the subject ended up on infertility I think somehow and I just sorta causally said "don't ask me I chemically castrated myself" with a smile on my face.

Serena, who talks too much

Hi -

Try joining a support group.  That is a typical pathway to becoming more comfortable in your new skin publicly, and it's also a great place to test stuff out too.

We all have early transition challenges of one kind or another; yours is not unique and similar to mine - I was petrified at telling people and showing any gender ambiguity at all in public.  In 6 mos. of therapy and two support groups I came around and began to fall into my comfort zone.

Keep talking here and stay in touch,

Rachel

Hey there Rachel.

you're starting to emerge out of your cocoon as the beautiful butterfly; it can be a bit scary.

I'm not sure how normally outgoing a person you are, as in how easy it is for you to strike up conversations with perfect strangers.  What I tell my students in my interdiction schools is to strike up conversations with total strangers; it makes it easier for them to interview drivers on the side of the road when working criminal interdiction.  Yes, this is a bit off topic, but I hope you see where I'm going with it.

What I was going to suggest is that depending on the type of practice your family doctor is out of, volunteer to talk with the medical assistants and nurses.  My family doc is based out of a university teaching hospital; I have made myself available to new residents and interns as well as PAs and nurses. 

The doctor's office would be a safe place and you should feel comfortable speaking with staff.  It helps you become more comfortable with speaking to people about you and your transition and it educates staff about the TG community, having an actual trans woman to speak with and ask questions. 

I love it and have actually formed some friendships that way.  It really helps give staff a more personal view of us and our community, and in turn word travels in a positive way. 

I would love to see how you're progressing.  Enjoy transition; the changes are awesome!


Be safe!  )

Marlo