Each day is bringing new joys about being trans. Today I was in the coffee shop I go to and this older woman who I only know from seeing her at the coffee place , but never have talked to her referred to me as a woman even though she's seen me long before transitioning.

I used to think it was something to be celebrated, but now I realize it's a medical condition, unlike for example being gay.   I'm sure one day medical science will have a better treatment, and flip some switch in the brain to help it match the gender of your chromosomes and body.   But for now, seriously, who would wish to be trans?

Quote from: mfox on October 22, 2015, 11:55:53 AM
I used to think it was something to be celebrated, but now I realize it's a medical condition, unlike for example being gay.   I'm sure one day medical science will have a better treatment, and flip some switch in the brain to help it match the gender of your chromosomes and body. 

I'm very afraid of that since I would make a horrible man any way you take it.

What do I think about being trans? Well, I don't think about it very much. Many times when I'm here on the board, I am forced to think about it but don't really distill it to my own life unless I bring up some painful memory.

I don't intend on having any more relationships. I think the single life is best for me with my new puppy. So, I don't have to worry about that.

I have wonderful supportive friends. When I publicly came out last week, I told them all before my FB announcement at a special breakfast and they said, almost in unison, "So?"

In the beginning, I wanted nothing but a nice quiet stealth life. Now, I suppose I'm on the opposite end of that sentiment. Do I like it? Not really. Does it hurt? Not really. Life is what it is now and I am grateful for every new day.

I am thrilled to see so many young adults come out on Youtube. I'm amazed at their audacity and lack of concern for the consequences we all face. But that is exactly what we need. Exposure of the positive. As people get to know us, we shall become a non threat. And we will be loved/liked/admired for who we are, not what we are.

So, that's what I think.

Quote from: mfox on October 22, 2015, 11:55:53 AM
I used to think it was something to be celebrated, but now I realize it's a medical condition, unlike for example being gay.   I'm sure one day medical science will have a better treatment, and flip some switch in the brain to help it match the gender of your chromosomes and body.   But for now, seriously, who would wish to be trans?

I think your'e very much in the right area. I don't understand gender fully, but I definitely feel it's more of a medical condition. In fact, going along the lines of what you're saying, I used to get SOOOOOO upset because I couldn't be a boy. I was so different to the other boys and when I reached puberty I just wanted to be a man. I used to observe other guys a lot of the time to try and mimic their behaviour - much of my teen years was spent doing that and writing in my diary to understand them. At the time I'd never realised I was female, I was soleyl focused on the fact of how defected I was. Then when for the first time I saw someone transgender I knew they were like me on the inside and it hit me like a pang of guilt. It was like I knew the truth all the time, but suddenly I was aware at that moment and I knew it. Thus I began my journey...

Quote from: Cindi Jones on October 22, 2015, 12:28:47 PM
What do I think about being trans? Well, I don't think about it very much. Many times when I'm here on the board, I am forced to think about it but don't really distill it to my own life unless I bring up some painful memory.

I don't intend on having any more relationships. I think the single life is best for me with my new puppy. So, I don't have to worry about that.

I have wonderful supportive friends. When I publicly came out last week, I told them all before my FB announcement at a special breakfast and they said, almost in unison, "So?"

In the beginning, I wanted nothing but a nice quiet stealth life. Now, I suppose I'm on the opposite end of that sentiment. Do I like it? Not really. Does it hurt? Not really. Life is what it is now and I am grateful for every new day.

I am thrilled to see so many young adults come out on Youtube. I'm amazed at their audacity and lack of concern for the consequences we all face. But that is exactly what we need. Exposure of the positive. As people get to know us, we shall become a non threat. And we will be loved/liked/admired for who we are, not what we are.

So, that's what I think.

One week ago you came out publicly? Wow...u look like you've been living trans for yearrrrs. Even if you have and you mean you just told your friends, hurrah! I hope you celebrated

Having socially and medically transitioned I dont really give the idea  of being trans much thought.I think we're all what we identify as so I could see some folk having a very strong trans identity or a queer identityThats not me..This forum is my only link with the trans community and it does through some thought provoking questions out which is really great..Mostly I'm just getting on with my day to day life and facing the same problems,oppressions etc. that are part of being a woman in the world-albeit one who accepts she has a degree of privilege due to education,job,skin colour etc.Those things affect my life more directly than having a trans history. Would I have been happier not being trans.I have no idea.From my perspective as a woman then even with it's percieved social advantages I really wouldnt want to be male.But do I say that from the awareness of what it was like trying to be male and really not getting it.I really dont know.It's a sort of Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle for gender!Maybe the most honest answer is that I like who I am now,I'm a better,more open person but that getting here was hard,that there was a cost but that cost was sooo worth paying.

Quote from: mfox on October 22, 2015, 11:55:53 AM
I used to think it was something to be celebrated, but now I realize it's a medical condition, unlike for example being gay.   I'm sure one day medical science will have a better treatment, and flip some switch in the brain to help it match the gender of your chromosomes and body.   But for now, seriously, who would wish to be trans?

At my 16 when I learned that me being transsexual is because of my brain damage I asked myself this very important question: "If there'd be a pill to cure me of my transsexuality, would I take it?" and the answer is simple: "NO", because this person, with her brain damage, this beautiful cheerful girl that enjoys life and backpacks around the World and does so many amazing things and has experienced so many amazing things, deserves to live. That guy that would be born if that pill exists might have the same memories, but he isn't that girl, and that girl is already alive, and she deserves to live <3 <3 <3

Quote from: xorchidfeyx on October 22, 2015, 05:30:31 PM
<3 <3 <3

<3 <3 <3

Honestly?
Next step decision will be suicide for me.

Quote from: galaxy on October 22, 2015, 06:48:13 PM
Honestly?
Next step decision will be suicide for me.

That really really sucks. I'm sorry.
All I can say is that you're most likely a wonderful person and you deserve to be around. Being trans isn't so bad that you should die. And you should distract yourself with all the other beautiful things around you. My inbox is always open if you need a friend <3


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Quote from: kitten_lover on October 22, 2015, 12:46:24 PM
I think your'e very much in the right area. I don't understand gender fully, but I definitely feel it's more of a medical condition. In fact, going along the lines of what you're saying, I used to get SOOOOOO upset because I couldn't be a boy. I was so different to the other boys and when I reached puberty I just wanted to be a man. I used to observe other guys a lot of the time to try and mimic their behaviour - much of my teen years was spent doing that and writing in my diary to understand them. At the time I'd never realised I was female, I was soleyl focused on the fact of how defected I was. Then when for the first time I saw someone transgender I knew they were like me on the inside and it hit me like a pang of guilt. It was like I knew the truth all the time, but suddenly I was aware at that moment and I knew it. Thus I began my journey...

I'm pretty much in the same boat but met someone who is trans when I was still still in primary school and went... Oooh so that explains a lot. I was quite envious of guys and how they acted yet when I done the same things, it felt weird and inconsistent.

I suppose that being trans and being alive is better than being who I once pretended to be and on the way to a date with a pine box.

Being trans comes with a steep price tag. There are the medical expenses and the associated indignities we have to go through, there is society's judgment of us, and there are the people that walk away from us. There is condemnation from many religious organizations, and persecutions from the bigoted politicians that try to push through laws to legislate us out of existence or regulate where we pee. There is the implied association between being trans and being a child molester or a pervert. There is society's pressure upon those that don't pass well.... and so on.

All of these things are hard. No one would "choose" this for themselves.

There are some good things too. Having lived as both genders gives us a very unique perspective on people and of things. Dealing with the stuff above makes us more empathetic toward the problems that others are dealing with. My own faith has been deepened by the challenges and the losses I have faced gong through this.

Currently we are in a golden age where people are curious about us and great strides are being made toward acceptance of us. This has been made possible by the brave trans people that came before us such as Silvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson. The stigma has lessened but there is still plenty left.

You know, it's the only life i'm going to have so I choose to make the best of it in spite of the difficulties. Transition is a hard road and even though I survived the process it changed a lot of things about me. I think it put me in the best place I could have gotten to considering the circumstances.

C'est la vie 

Quote from: kitten_lover on October 22, 2015, 12:49:37 PM
One week ago you came out publicly? Wow...u look like you've been living trans for yearrrrs. Even if you have and you mean you just told your friends, hurrah! I hope you celebrated

This +1.  Wow, - I thought you'd been out forever Cindi 

Quote from: mfox on October 22, 2015, 11:55:53 AM
I used to think it was something to be celebrated, but now I realize it's a medical condition, unlike for example being gay.  I'm sure one day medical science will have a better treatment, and flip some switch in the brain to help it match the gender of your chromosomes and body.   But for now, seriously, who would wish to be trans?

The thought of that happening is absolutely terrifying for me 

Yeah, as much as being trans is kind of a lifelong pain the thought of someone tinkering with my brain to erase me is a horrifying thought. 


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Being trans sucks. I would wish it on my own worst enemy, because I'm just that petty and mean.

Dysphoria sucks. Transphobia sucks. Pretty much everything about it is crap. The only benefits are the same you could get by any other awful life circumstance: community, perspective, strength — maybe some of those, if you're lucky. It's not the worst thing in the world, not by a long shot, but everything about it is at least a little bit awful.

Transitioning, on the other hand, is fantastic: It makes being trans suck about 1000 times less.

My biggest problem with being trans was to be found out. Grade school , high school , college and work. It really doesn't matter to me anymore and I really like when someone asks what pronouns I prefer. It was quite funny today at the hospital when I had to say my name because it hasn't been legally changed .they seemed a little surprised when I say a male name.

Doubt i will ever come out and just stick to dressing androgynously, living in a first world asian nation, and being 5"9 i am taller than most men in my country.

Honestly?!! A CURSE! AN ABOMINATION!! A HASSLE!!!