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Started by allisonmaybe?, November 12, 2015, 10:12:03 PM

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allisonmaybe?

To start off I am a pre op mtf. I get excited when I think about having sex with a guy so Today I decided to try my first vibrator and it did not live up to my expectations, at all! I really didn't feel anything, being pre op there was only one place to put it, so I'm not sure if certain vibrators are vaginal only. It has been making me a little nervous for when I go post op, and decide to have some fun with a guy. I am a worried that I am doomed to just not feel anything. Has anyone had any similar experience and able to shed some light on it?
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Qrachel

Your feelings and concerns are normal.  The use of vibrators and how you respond is a case by case thing.  I assume you tried anal stimulation which is much different than vaginal.  You just may not be into anal or your lack of experience maybe didn't allow you to fully enjoy the experience.

Also, it will a few months post-op before you'll really begin to experience vaginal excitement, which by the way requires a very different and holistic body experience to get to climactic levels of excitement.  These are things your treatment team will discuss with you, and if not then ask - there's no shame or need for embarrassment for it's about the body and the mind and your treatment professionals should be well prepared to discuss this with you.

Take care and stay in touch,

Rachel

Rachel

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow."
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Laura_7

You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195694.msg1746415.html#msg1746415
and here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,198009.msg1760988.html#msg1760988

Some people use vibrators to stimulate what they refer to as their clit... in a more passive fashion...
fantasies are possible meanwhile...

and there are bent stimulators available for anal play, to stimulate the p-spot... which can be very pleasurable...
use tools for that purpose, with a flange or handle so nothing gets lost in there...

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MugwortPsychonaut

Quote from: Laura_7 on November 13, 2015, 06:03:07 AM
You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195694.msg1746415.html#msg1746415
and here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,198009.msg1760988.html#msg1760988

Some people use vibrators to stimulate what they refer to as their clit... in a more passive fashion...
fantasies are possible meanwhile...

and there are bent stimulators available for anal play, to stimulate the p-spot... which can be very pleasurable...
use tools for that purpose, with a flange or handle so nothing gets lost in there...

Yes! The flange is very important! Imparative, even! Exit, stage left, even!
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Sharon Anne McC

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I will be G-rated.

You post that you are pre-op.  Well then, your current results will be pre-op results, not post-op results.

Now is when it becomes important to study medical science and anatomy and physiology so that you comprehend comparative anatomy.  Then you can begin making your informed choice of surgery.  GCS / SRS surgeons have their own philosophy and may or may not produce results desirable to you.

Post-op is when you can explore pleasing post-op options.  If you really want and need to progress to surgery, then there is nothing of the surgery to be nervous about.  The correct surgeon according to your needs and philosophy will produce favourable results for you; this is exciting anticipation.

Your surgeon and team will lead you through your grand tour; take time post-op to explore your new self so that you come to your comfort level with your new equipment.  Remember, females grow up as girls, mature through puberty, and develop womanhood through the course of a lifetime.  You are seeking to accomplish this same path in a matter of a few short years.

Once you are comfortable with your new anatomy, then you can begin bringing a partner to you.  Of course, if you have a current partner who will be staying with you, then they can work with you as you explore your new anatomy.

Sorry, my personal pre-op circumstances provided no comparison of male versus female; someone else will need to post their comparative experiences.

My best organ really is between my ears.  I can and do and experience many forms of female excitement with different parts of my anatomy and I am quite satisfied with various directed and over-all body experiences.

Yes, female is a beautifully grand enjoyment!

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1956:  Birth (AMAB)
1974-1985:  Transition (core transition:  1977-1985)
1977:  Enrolled in Stanford University Medical Center's 'Gender Dysphoria Program'
1978:  First transition medical appointment
1978:  Corresponded with Janus Information Facility (Galveston)
1978:  Changed my SSA file to Sharon / female
1979:  First psychological evaluation - passed
1979:  Began ERT (Norinyl, DES, Premarin, estradiol, progesterone)
1980:  Arizona affirmed me legally as Sharon / female
1980:  MVD changed my licence to Sharon / female
1980:  First bank account as Sharon / female
1982:  Inter-sex exploratory:  diagnosed Inter-sex (genetically female)
1983:  Inter-sex corrective surgery
1984:  Full-blown 'male fail' phase
1985:  Transition complete to female full-time forever
2015:  Awakening from self-imposed deep stealth and isolation
2015 - 2016:  Chettawut Clinic - patient companion and revision
Today:  Happy!
Future:  I wanna return to Bangkok with other Thai experience friends

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