What do you wear to your therapist.

lostcharlie · December 14, 2015, 08:12:44 PM

Krista, Congratulations on your appointment going so well. My therapist had a similar reaction the first time I showed up as the real me. Being the real you is a tremendous feeling. Best of luck going forward on this long road we are all traveling down.

Sharon Anne McC · December 24, 2015, 06:28:27 PM

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My therapist made a strange request of me when I had been approximately 15 years post-op. He wanted me to come to a session dressed as male.

That was quite a shock of a request.

Perhaps he wanted to determine how I was progressing or if I had any thoughts of regression or reversion.

Considering that I refused to dress up in a cheap man's suit to satisfy a cousin who was getting married about five years my post-op when she demanded that was how she would only accept me, the therapist's request still seemed puzzling.

Of course, I also declined the counsellor same as the cousin. Clothes are not my hang-up, but I have no inclination to wear male clothes any more than any other woman.

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AmandaDanielle · December 24, 2015, 07:18:42 PM

I've been to my therapist at least twice and my true self. She is very understanding and accepting. She very kind and compliments me often.

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TechGirl · December 24, 2015, 08:26:22 PM

Quote from: Krista? on December 13, 2015, 10:29:26 PM
I have to keep it conservative though, I still have short hair (in the army) so there is no way I can pass right now. Anyway I have been thinking about it alot, just thought I would share.

Know what you mean. Not like I can walk into the ship's doc's office or on base support offices in female mode. Maybe if I get a referral to a civilian doc.

Dana60 · December 25, 2015, 12:28:50 AM

I see my theraphist on a Saturday, which means i can see her in girl mode. I feel more comfortable seeing her that way.

I have to see the Doctor for my hormones during the week, so it is the boy mode i wear at work.

Dana

itsApril · December 27, 2015, 02:08:54 PM

Quote from: Sharon Anne McC on December 24, 2015, 06:28:27 PM
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My therapist made a strange request of me when I had been approximately 15 years post-op. He wanted me to come to a session dressed as male.

That was quite a shock of a request.

Perhaps he wanted to determine how I was progressing or if I had any thoughts of regression or reversion.

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Pretty strange request, especially coming from a therapist. Sounds like you're trying to piece together what he meant by it. I suggest you ask him directly to explain what that was about. He works for you, you don't work for him. It may be that he is uncomfortable with or out of sympathy with your gender identity. If that's so, then likely he is not the right therapist for you.

Azurefrost · December 27, 2015, 02:18:03 PM

I generally wear boy clothes even though I'm transitioning from male to female. I'm not in any rush and I will once I feel comfortable doing so. But for me, wearing female clothes isn't as much of an issue and my male styles were always kind of androgynous anyway.

SarahMarie1987 · December 27, 2015, 02:55:40 PM

I just came out to my therapist. I told her that I was trans and that I would prefer female pronouns and my name Sarah.

But I haven't dressed yet for a session. Only because I go after work, it is only a ten minute walk. So normally I am wearing men's jeans and a shirt.

But the upside is that I pick clothes (men's at least) that I am comfortable in. So that is a good thing.

The way I look at is like this, my therapist and I are still building a relationship together. It will take me a while to fully embrace and feel safe as Sarah with her. But I am looking forward to that.

Kylo · December 27, 2015, 04:09:27 PM

Jeans and a shirt.

Shandril · January 08, 2016, 10:59:07 PM

Do you think dressing en femme will increase my chance or speed up getting my hrt letter?

~Shan~

Deborah · January 08, 2016, 11:23:32 PM

Quote from: Shandril on January 08, 2016, 10:59:07 PM
Do you think dressing en femme will increase my chance or speed up getting my hrt letter?

~Shan~

That probably depends on your therapist and case. With mine it didn't make any difference at all. I presented male with a really short haircut at the time and received the letter in three visits. It seems to me that what the therapist sees in your mind would be more important than what you wear but another therapist might think differently.

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stephaniec · January 09, 2016, 01:17:11 AM

Quote from: Sharon Anne McC on December 24, 2015, 06:28:27 PM
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My therapist made a strange request of me when I had been approximately 15 years post-op. He wanted me to come to a session dressed as male.

That was quite a shock of a request.

Perhaps he wanted to determine how I was progressing or if I had any thoughts of regression or reversion.

Considering that I refused to dress up in a cheap man's suit to satisfy a cousin who was getting married about five years my post-op when she demanded that was how she would only accept me, the therapist's request still seemed puzzling.

Of course, I also declined the counsellor same as the cousin. Clothes are not my hang-up, but I have no inclination to wear male clothes any more than any other woman.

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I'd say it would be time to see a qualified therapist

Jessie Ann · January 09, 2016, 01:37:30 AM

Last February I went to my first appointment in girl mode. My therapist gave me my letter the next day. The only time my therapist has seen me as a male has been in pictures I showed her.

stephaniec · January 09, 2016, 01:43:48 AM

I usually go in a nice casual dress and boots. I need the boots because my feet are so messed up from arthritis their the only ones that are comfortable.

MugwortPsychonaut · January 10, 2016, 10:58:08 AM

From day one I went to therapy "as a girl." My therapist gushed about how cute I looked, so I knew I was on the right track. Now I just am a girl, so I can wear some boy clothes too and still look like a girl.

In Philly, one doesn't need a letter for HRT. We have an informed consent model. So for me, the biggest barrier was myself.

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