So I'm a transguy , and noone at my school knows. I don't take PE, but I do have choir and I'm in the school play. Both of those things require me to change with other boys. I've talked with the teachers about this, and they're kind of unsure of what to do. If I had to, I'd wear boxers and an undershirt when I change, but it's a little uncomfortable to be exposed like that. And the guys might begin to talk.

If I change in another room, then the boys are going to be suspicious as to why I do. What excuse could I make up about leaving for another room or what solution is there possibly to this problem?

If you wear the boxers and an undershirt you could just keep your back to everyone if the room layout allows.  Other than that I can't think of any good excuse for leaving the room that won't leave people wondering and maybe talking about it.


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A few years ago when I was early in transitioning I visited my twin and at one point he wanted to see if I had a toned body from doing teakwondo back then. I was mortified at showing him my developing chest and he made the assumption that I had a huge scar there. Maybe you could use that you are self conscious of a scar or something.

I don't know if you wear a binder but if you did you could wear one that is close to your skin colour. It would blend in a bit more...

Just do what every shy geeky teenage boy has done, wear a lose shirt if you can, take off the shoes, grab the pants your going to put on keeping them near by. Drop the pants and put the new ones on right away so the shirt helps cover things and your out of pants for like 10 seconds.

The shirt can be more tricky. A binder that's like tshirt especially if it looks sorta like under armour and like the pants keep it on hand, pull the old one off and pull the new one on. Do both whail facing the wall and don't talk to anyone whail actually changing. Odds are the most anyone will think is that your shy about your body which is true in it's own way.

You could come up with a elaborate excuse for the under shirt like a horrible burn that has to be kept clean, but guys may want to See it and its s lie you have to stick to long term, best to go simple, something like "I sweat, it helps" short simple lies are the easiest to believe.

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Guys in general are way less modest in locker room/changing room situations. If it makes you feel any better, no guy is really going to care about another guy in boxers and a t-shirt, and they aren't going to be looking too close either. I would recommend wearing a binder and a looser dark colored shirt. As for the boxers, if they are loose you might not need a packer, but if you're a boxer briefs kind of guy you might want to get one.

I was using the men's locker room at the gym when I was pre-everything and I just made sure to keep my boxers and a t-shirt on whenever I was in view of other guys. The locker room had shower curtains in the shower area, so I could take a shower and put my boxers and shirt back on before stepping out and nobody knew the difference. Nobody ever said anything to me, and plenty of cis-guys did the exact same thing.

I'm glad you're not letting your discomfort keep you from doing activities you enjoy. I'm sure you'll find a good solution!

Is there any chance of being able to get ready before or after they do, at least partly?