you misread that one a few miles, I just think they see me as the pub equivalent of the guy in a suit at diznee world. But if your asking, I'm dancing.

Hi Isabelle

Going full time is enough to scare the crap out of anyone, and I don't care how brave some claim to be, I still say it's a very scary situation on coming out on your first day. I nearly quit several times, thinking I was crazy to even think of responding to such a proposition. Could I truly do this? I had a repetition of the same magnitude just before surgery. This GID thing reminds me much like it were part of an instinct a very strong relentless instinct .

It's not like anyone had any choice but to follow their instinctive desires anyway. I wonder if the dysphoria grows on us through our own DNA, I only just know that after I gave in things changed and became less scary and much easier to live with. That would mean then that we were born with this information already in our own DNA, a stand no bigger then a hair connected to the instinctive part of our mind?

I don't know but I will say that after I surrendered and started being the new me, everything went wonderfully well after that. like it were meant to be, and is as it should be. There is a reason for all in creation to be as is, this is called balance and order. Without balance and order, Universe would be no more then a Chaotic mess of meaningless energy. It is a balancing act of Alpha and Omega, bad or good and some of us are just simply integrate with our inner being. We are assigned to be on a different type of mission then the many that are still groping around in the dark out there.

What do most of us have in common growing up? Abuse and dysfunction. If you were to check out the many boards I have shared with others in you will find that to be quite so.

I could never be part-time, it would drive me crazy.......why would I want to be?

I'm an all or nothing type person, and so I when I transitioned, there was no part time about it, I jumped into the deep end, sink or swim.  <bubble, bubble>

y2g

We worry at bubble number three

..isn't part time being a ->-bleeped-<-?

Quote from: Berliegh on December 27, 2007, 06:01:14 PM
..isn't part time being a ->-bleeped-<-?

Not necessarily, what matters most is how the person identifies. If the feel they have the wrong body...then regardless if they are full-time or part-time they are still a transsexual. It's not the ability to live as we want 24/7 that makes us who we are...it's whats on the inside that makes us who we are...

Peace and love,
Izzy

I don't know.  Can you be a part-time woman?  I'm not talking about
cross-dressers or ->-bleeped-<-s here.  Transsexualism is serious business.  It can't be taken lightly.

Quote from: Natasha on December 27, 2007, 06:14:28 PM
I don't know.  Can you be a part-time woman?  I'm not talking about
cross-dressers or ->-bleeped-<-s here.  Transsexualism is serious business.  It can't be taken lightly.

I completely agree........surely you can't be serious about transitioning if you are part time......

Quote from: Berliegh on December 27, 2007, 06:32:29 PMsurely you can't be serious about transitioning if you are part time......

Except when it's an interim solution, as noted above. Imposed on struggling individuals by circumstances that cannot be overcome immediately, but only after considerable heartbreak.

Quote from: Hypatia on December 27, 2007, 07:44:28 PM

Quote from: Berliegh on December 27, 2007, 06:32:29 PMsurely you can't be serious about transitioning if you are part time......

Except when it's an interim solution, as noted above. Imposed on struggling individuals by circumstances that cannot be overcome immediately, but only after considerable heartbreak.

interim solution? ....What does that mean?

you can't be a woman part time, or a transsexual - but you can be part time in the expression of those things. Usually at considerable strain i imagine.

Quote from: Pica Pica on December 27, 2007, 07:50:52 PM
you can't be a woman part time, or a transsexual - but you can be part time in the expression of those things. Usually at considerable strain i imagine.

run that past me again......

imagine you are transsexual and you feel deeply inside that you are a woman....
you will always be this woman, but you will not always be able to live as this woman or present yourself to the world as a woman. So although you can't transition full time for whatever reason, you are still a woman and still transsexual and whatever, you just can't get that out into the world all the time. Which is why it can be interim.

Quote from: Pica Pica on December 27, 2007, 08:00:06 PM
imagine you are transsexual and you feel deeply inside that you are a woman....
you will always be this woman, but you will not always be able to live as this woman or present yourself to the world as a woman. So although you can't transition full time for whatever reason, you are still a woman and still transsexual and whatever, you just can't get that out into the world all the time. Which is why it can be interim.

..Isn't that called supression or living in denial.

Quote from: anonymous123 on December 27, 2007, 08:23:52 PM
Hmmm, the sentence: surely you can't be serious about transitioning if you are part time...... needs to be addressed.

I believe that one can divide the spiritual transition from the physical. I am very serious about transitioning. Having laid a time table, financial goals, controlling social (lack of) situations, and meeting required professionals, I don't think you can claim that (see above), as I am still part time in appearance. Keeping my job dictates this.

Jumping in full steam is great for some, quite apprehensive for others. I am a planner. Voice, hair, hormones, surgery in that order.

There is no strain, but a sense of purpose and a joy in cataloging the physical changes.

I went thoough the thread and didn't find anything? too much fudge and whaffle in your statement.....we all plan our treatment to whatever our needs may be but in my book a part timer is someone who sits on the fence...

Quote from: Berliegh on December 27, 2007, 08:10:48 PM
..Isn't that called supression or living in denial.

Yeah, but it don't make them less of a woman.

Quote from: Pica Pica on December 27, 2007, 08:51:51 PM

Quote from: Berliegh on December 27, 2007, 08:10:48 PM
..Isn't that called supression or living in denial.

Yeah, but it don't make them less of a woman.

But are they percieved as a woman? or do they want to be seen as a woman or a man?

What about if your part time because your waiting to better pass for an easier time!?!?  Is that still suppression and denial?

Quote from: shanetastic on December 27, 2007, 10:36:25 PMWhat about if your part time because your waiting to better pass for an easier time!?!?  Is that still suppression and denial?

I personally don't think that is suppression or denial...but that's just me...other's might have a different opinion on the matter...

I know a number of girls that live their lives as woman everyplace put the office. They all have their reasons as to why they can't or won't transition to full-time...but I could never live my life that way personally. While I can understand their fears about possibly loosing a well paying job...I personally think it's just a cop-out...but again...that is just my opinion...

Peace and love,
Izzy