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Started by Amoré, January 13, 2016, 09:07:05 AM

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Amoré

Well after much contemplating about whether I should or not I dropped of my wife at the train station went back home took a bath and dressed female.

I decidid I am going to give this a shot I went out of the room the two people that is cleaning the house looked at me funny and I decided O well one barier down. I then decided let me take this one step further and get it over and done with. I asked my mom if I can come to her work it is sort of a family business that she is working for so other family is also there so they can meet Amoray.

O well I got in the car stopped for petrol and I got out to buy cooldrink at the shop for me and my mom. This was scary and sweat started pouring down my face. A man and I walked into each other in the one isle and I got a polite smile.

Well when I got to my mothers work I was very nervous this is the first time she is seeing me fully dressed with the wig and everything. She was suprised how feminine I looked.

Then came a guy that I know from my Batchelor party he did not know what my mother was trying to explain bit brought me a chair and his wife facial expression was priceless he did not exactly know how to greet me and was shuddering to the whole time I actually felt sorry for him. Me and my mother was chatting the hours away.I had to go to the bathroom and went to the girls one. Then came time to visit my two aunts and my uncle in their office well my aunt told me I am beautiful I have bothing to be ashamed off. My uncle was pretty receptive as well my other aunt started preaching for me of what I am doing to my child and wife I told her my wife is done with me I tried to be a man for her and I was not enough.

I also met my mothers ex boyfriend that jokingly said he would do my I am damn gorgious. Then told me it was inevitable he was waiting for this day and the results is spectacular. I was shocked. As I was on my way out of the door my mothers uncle saw me and I always looked up to him as my role model. He stretched his arms out and gave me a hug and told me also I am gorgious.He told me I must be happy that is all that matters.

I was suprised with the positive response that I received from the family except for one or two. I actually had so much fun enjoyed and my marriage was the last thing on my mind. :)

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Well I must add that I dressed male when I got home but I really enjoyed being female. I really enjoyed people seeing me as female even though the family got the pronounce wrong I did not really care. My mother was so sweet she really tried hard.Now I am sitting sort of sad because I know this move signals in a way that I am showing the relationship with my wife the finger. Actually there is no relationship anymore. I can't call that thing a relationship. Being Amoray did not take the pain away but there where some sort of strange peace in me that I could not explain. I love being Amoray after today.


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Elis

Hey,

I've read your recent posts and just wanted to say I'm kinda proud of you for finally taking the steps to make yourself happy; despite your wife. I hope you are able to keep it up :)
They/them pronouns preferred.



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Stevie

  Nice to hear it went well with your family, you took a big step and faced your fears.
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ToniB

You have taken the first and biggest step towards becoming the person You need to Be and the world did not implode . In fact I believe that things went very well with Your family so rejoice and enjoy it

Toni
The girl inside is just as important expecially to Yourself :)
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KathyLauren

Yay!  Good for you!  I am glad it went well with your family.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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pyhxbp

Congrats on your "coming out" although it seems that people knew or were expecting it. Nonetheless it takes more nerve that people appreciate.

I do not know how the transition process operates in SA but if you are prepared to start living in a female role I would have thought that it can only help.
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Amoré

I won't say it was a coming out they knew I was transgender but none of them ever met "Amoray". It was the first time they saw me like this and people actually went and told my mother afterwards what a beautiful daughter she have. So it is sort of a huge confidence boost for me. My aunt said I look a lot like my sister. It was scary as hell actually I was sweating all my makeup off. ::)


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pyhxbp

The sweat thing decreases with HRT which makes it easier to keep the make up on
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stephaniec

congrats on the family acceptance , a big step. My niece just decided to accept me after contemplating it for a year.
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Jacqueline

Amoré,

I have not posted to you much but read your threads. So many others with more experience were giving you great advice.

I know it has been hard and am sorry but so glad to see you moving forward. That was very brave of you.

Well done.

With warmth,

Joanna
1st Therapy: February 2015
First Endo visit & HRT StartJanuary 29, 2016
Jacqueline from Joanna July 18, 2017
Full Time June 1, 2018





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RobynD

Such wonderful news. This made my day.


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Mariah

It's wonderful things went well with the family. Hugs
Mariah
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LizK

Good on you, What you did was take a positive step towards being Happy....Fantastic, well done
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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WaterGirl

Good on you, Amoray!


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MeganAshley

Having only presented as female publicly twice in my life, I know how scary and yet liberating it can be.
*HIGH5* GIRL!!!

*hugs* and congrats for taking that wonderful step!
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Katiepie

It's always awesome when everything goes positive! One step down, many more steps down the road to a bright future.
Remember to take things slowly and always always keep your head up.

Kate <3
My life motto: Wake Up and BE Awesome!

"Every minute of your life that you allow someone to dictate your emotions, is a minute of your life you are allowing them to control you." - a dear friend of mine.

Stay true to yourself no matter the consequence, for this is your life, your decision, your trust in which will shape your future. Believe in yourself, if you don't then no one will.
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Eva Marie

Amoré-

You just took a huge, positive step - you did something for yourself without worrying about who would care. The positive feedback you got from your family is confirmation that you are a very pretty woman, and it is also an indicator that you are on the right path.

I think that the genie is out of the bottle  :)

The next time you go out as your authentic self it will be easier because you gained some confidence this time.
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AmandaDanielle

Oh My God!! Way to go girl! Word cannot express how proud I am of you!! I know it's been hard, hun but it seems like everything is going to be just fine for your new life!! So excited for you!!!

Now do you believe you're gorgeous, darling??
35 Years of living the wrong life, finally making it right  :)









"Don't expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they haven't walked your path." -Unknown

"Those that matter don't mind... Those that mind don't matter"
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Hope springs

Congrats Amoray.. Your post inspired me to register just so i could say good for you. Im not out to anyone but my wife and sister in law. So facing family presenting female is a really brave step. Dont sell yourself short, you did a courageous thing so im sending you an e-hug
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itsApril

You've had so many painful and stressful events in your life.  I'm so pleased this went well.  Yes, there is a future.  And yes, the future is better than the past.
-April
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