I think the original poster wanted to discuss the worries of lower self imaging when your with a cisgender woman.
When I'm with my wife I do sometimes compare my body to hers, and feel I must still fill the male role, but over time this is getting less important. I may compare our waists and think Ill never have a waist like that but then I'll compare our skin and think how similar they are now. I think most woman have issues with there bodies and the media's unrealistic image for women, so in reality we are just like cisgender women in this regard.
I often fantasize that maybe being with a man they would treat me more like a woman, but then I think of having to kiss one or actually look at them during sex and say "its not worth it"

Over time my wife is treating me more like a woman and that maybe good enough.
I should note that while I think of myself as a Lesbian inside, my wife does not feel the same way, and we are not involved in the lesbian community. We will likely separate as best friends, and if I ever decide to date again I'd look for a place in the lesbian community.